Post # 1
Hello Bee’s!! I’m in a predicament. We are on a tight budget. The place I want to have the wedding at is the only thing in our price range really and the max capacity is 120 . My guest list is just over that right now. I’ve tryed to cut down on who we should invite but honestly it’s all family and close friends. I figured if I only let certain people bring a guest I can knock off almost 30 people ! The people I would let bring a guest are : people with significant “longer” term others ,or people that don’t really know other people at the wedding.
Is this an ok idea? how can I adress this to everyone / make it clear but polite ?
I also figure knocking off some extra people ( that we probably won’t know ) , will give us room to add in just a few people we would like to have at the wedding as well.
Post # 4
@birdy88: I think it’s totally fine. Add a vote!
Post # 5
That’s definitely fine. You just don’t add “and guest” to their invitation (i.e. only list a single person’s name on both envelopes and RSVP card). If they ask, let them know that it’s a tight budget and you don’t know their SO.
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC
Yea I think thats fine – this is a bit of a risk but I sent out more invitations than I could host knowing that some people wouldnt actually come, then again, it is a DW.
You could also put them into A and B list. Send out As first and as soon as you get a rejection send out the Bs.
Post # 7
As long as you’re inviting established couples, not giving everyone a +1 is totally fine.
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
That’s totally fine. Not everyone has to have a guest! You’re being very considerate by giving a guest to people who won’t know anyone, but for single people who know others there? They’ll be totally fine
Post # 9
I’m only inviting those in long term, serious relationships. I am probably going to allow the wedding party to bring dates, if they want. But random friend/cousin who’s been dating someone for a couple months – nope!
Post # 10
@leecy87: that’s an excellent idea ! I think i’ll do that !!
Post # 11
That’s what I’m doing! It’s a great way to make sure everyone you want to be there is able to be.
Post # 12
Your not a Trump, so unfortutenly in life people can’t get everything they want.
I don’t see a problem with it.
Post # 13
I’m in the same boat as you. Our venue only holds 120 max. Our guest list now is at 160 LOL Plus we have people coming with their children too.
Most is family. I think that inviting people that are not in steady relationship (like marriage or engagement) and not giving the option of plus 1 is ok.
Post # 14
@Lulume: what Im doing is just letting family bring their kid. Or you can just say all together that it’s adult only reception. Also I dunno if you seen up there ^^ but someone suggest that I make a guest A and B list. Put the people you want most on A and the others on B. Send out the first ones and when someone rejects send out a B. But of course keeping it at 120 people !You’ve unfortunately got more people to cut down on than me. Have you booked that place already ?
Post # 15
@bklynbridetobe: Love your answer ! lol it’s very true.
Post # 16
@birdy88: people with significant “longer” term others ,or people that don’t really know other people at the wedding.
Nope never a good idea to jude other’s relationships. You’ll prob be back complining that guests are asking to bring guests.
It is not fair to let some people bring their dates and others no. You want people to celebrate your relationship, but snub their.