Post # 1
Hi all! Sorry if this has been asked before.
So I have eight bridesmaids and two flower girls. I want to have my hair and make-up done professionally. I want to let my bridesmaids do their hair however they want because there are so many different lengths and hair types in my bridal party. My question is do I pay to have my hairstylist do all of their hair and make-up as well as mine? Or do I just have mine done professionally and they can do their own/each other’s hair and make-up?
Just wondering what is usually done/what is best ettiquette-wise.
Post # 3
I paid for my girls make up as I felt like that was more something I wanted then really needed. The girls paid for their hair. I had six in my wedding party.
Post # 4
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@flaminga: I think the best etiquette-wise is to pay.
With that in mind, my MOH (the only girl that stood up with me), had recently got married and I stood up with her. For her wedding I paid for my hair and we did our own makeup. For my wedding I reflected that, she paid for her hair (altho she ended up getting a discount from me inadvertantly) and I paid for makeup because I wanted mine professionally done and to treat my mom and MOH.
Post # 5
If you require it then pay. If not then throw it out there as an option. I’ve always had the brides pay for my hair though. I did my own on my wedding day though with no BMs.
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2012 - Muckenthaler Cultural Center
I paid for my 8 bridemaids hair and make up 🙂
I was a bridesmaid in a wedding where the bride paid for our hair and make up, and a bridesmaid where we had the option of paying to get our hair done and we had to do our make up ourselves. Both were fine!
Post # 7
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
If you require that they all have a certain specific style of hair and/or makeup then it’s appropriate to pay for it. If you trust them to do their own hair and makeup, then there is no need to pay for it (they still have the option to pay for it if they want.)
Post # 8
I paid for my BMs hair, and they didn’t have to wear makeup if they didn’t want. I had a friend do mine, and she did on BM’s, but the other two did their own. I didn’t have any specific hairstyles I wanted them to have, and they ended up just going with what the hair stylist thought would look best on each of them indivdually.
I think if you’re going to require them to have specific hairstyles and makeup, then you should pay for it. If you’re giving them free choice, then it’d be nice if you did, but I don’t think necessary.
Post # 9
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
I didn’t pay for my BMs’ hair/makeup. I also didn’t require it of them. It would have been nice if they got it done, but at the end of the day it’s not a big deal. I know they couldn’t afford it if I required them to do it, and I couldn’t afford it either, so they just did their own.
Post # 10
I would give them the option of having their hair and makeup done along with the prices. If they would like to have it done, they can let you know so that you can schedule it.
If you are requiring them to have it done (which it doesn’t sound like you are), then yes, you have to pay.
I offered both services and they all chose to have their hair done and do their makeup themselves.
Post # 11
I paid for my BM dresses so I am giving them the option to pay for hair and makeup or to do it themselves, I have three with really short hair and three with long so it’s not like the styles can be the same. I want them all to look nice but after spending loads on dresses I cant afford the hair and makeup. I did get a backlash from my FMIL saying I didn’t Care about my wedding and the overall look but that’s because three of the bridesmaids are my FI sister and her two children which I was told I had to include by FMIL so I have 6 BMs and I can’t afford it so it’s up to them. My other three BMs don’t have an issue at all it’s just the future family.
Post # 12
I do not think you have to do ANYthing. You are choosing to get yours professionally done. You can ask them the services can be offered to them too, if they want to pay for it, but it is not a requirement to be in your bridal party.
FWIW, I am paying for all my gals, and myself, but I am only doing it as a way to truly pamper them that day, and to ‘thank’ them for all they did for me throughout the process. I want everyone and everythign to be, ideally, really relaxed, and I know my gals well enough to know that they tend to ‘panic’ when hair and make-up is involved for a ‘big event’. That made my choice EASY!
Post # 13
If you require it to be done, you should pay for it.
If you can afford to pay for it, it would be a nice gesture.
What I think you should do is see what kind of deal you can negotiate with the salon/hairdresser and then offer it to your girls (ie: I’m getting my hair done here and she offered a rate of ‘x’, if anyone wants to get their hair done as well) – and then leave it up to each BM to either do or not do their hair and/or makeup
Post # 14
It’s certainly nice to pay if it’s in your budget. I’ve always heard if you want them to have a certain look (for example, hair up) you should pay. However, it is completely understandable that expenses add up and as I’m sure everyone that has ever posted here is aware, weddings are pricey! I’ve been in weddings as a bridesmaid where the bride paid for hair/makeup, paid for just one, we did it ourselves, and I paid – so the whole variety! If you would prefer to not pay, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. If you’d like, you could tell your bridal party, “hey everyone – I’m getting my hair and makeup done at [time] and [at salon/in bridal suite/at my house/etc].” You can also tell them if they’d like it done too how much each costs.
Post # 15
I told my bridesmaids they could get hair/makeup if they wanted and I would pay half if they did. That way they won’t just get it becuase it sounds fun. They also have something invested, but it won’t be too much. Happy medium.
Post # 16
@flaminga: You only need to pay if you are requiring that they get their hair done. If you don’t mind one way or the other, then no you don’t need to pay.