(Closed) Should i persist

posted 6 years ago in Family
  • poll: Should i persist and go?
    yes : (13 votes)
    57 %
    no : (8 votes)
    35 %
    other : (2 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
    14498 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    You need to get Darling Husband to make a stand here.  This is his family that is excluding you and he needs to fix this.  Are they going to continue to exclude you when you have kids?  Nope, nothing about this is ok.  When you got married, he and you made a family, therefore it should be all or nothing.  IMO

    Post # 4
    904 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I agree with PP. It’s time to figure out what the deal is. 

    Post # 5
    341 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I agree with tksjewelry.  I mean, I guess there is a possibility that there is some sort of misunderstanding here, but it sounds like they’re leaving you out.  Not cool and I think your Fiance needs to step in here. 

    Post # 8
    5170 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I wouldn’t go. Why would you go somewhere you are not wanted? Your Mother-In-Law is being a biatch! Why would you want to be in her company?

    Post # 10
    772 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    this is not a high class thing, it’s a snob thing pure and simple and your Fiance needs to settle this with his mother AND his father.  sounds like Mother-In-Law blindsided Father-In-Law last time. Maybe he should explain how hurtful it is to Father-In-Law and have him confront Mother-In-Law about it.


    Post # 11
    2442 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    If your husband goes, you definitely go.  No need for emails, phone calls, texts, etc. If your husband goes, you get in the car and go with him, period!  You don’t need her persmission to go anywhere with your husband.  I agree with PPs that your husband should handle this monkey business with his mom but just in case he doesn’t, you are now a married couple and the two of you are now one.  Present a united front.  Either you both go or you both don’t go.  

    Post # 13
    4755 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    How can you go to something that hasn’t been set up? Last I read there were no set plans, and you’ll “wait until you hear something”. So unless you heard something… you don’t go. If you do hear something yes, you should just go.

    Post # 15
    5170 posts
    Bee Keeper

    @Regretsy: the language she is using screams “YOURE NOT INVITED” a “cozy” group? and the whole ‘ you dont have to come’ thing… whats up with your MIL? Since you are planning something with the aunt and the gma… if they ask why you werent there, just tell them the truth. 

    Post # 16
    1542 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    @MrsNeutrino: I agree, she’s using the “nice” (not) way to tell you you’re not invited. Why would you want to go somewhere you’re not wanted.

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