- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2010
Two of my close friends were married a month ago (our wedding is in one month) and I am worried about too much “copying” of their wedding elements, so I need some input as to how much is too much.
A little back story . . . I am very close friends with both the bride and groom. I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man in their wedding but I did not ask her to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man in ours, for a number of reasons. I discussed this with her as almost a “You are one of my closest friends and I would love to have asked you but I just can’t” and she’s the type of person that just doesn’t get worked up about stuff like that anyway, so she seemed to understand. Still, even though their wedding was awesome, I felt awkward the whole time thinking how special it felt to be a part of their day even though she would not be one of my BMs.
There are a few similarities in our weddings. We have very similar bridesmaid dresses – same designer, same fabric, just slightly different shades of purple and different styles. The tuxes are the same. I guess it’s not that much overlap, but I think I just feel strange because of the whole Bridesmaid or Best Man in her wedding, but her not in mine thing.
Anyway, the real question (sorry, I know this is long!) . . . Fiance and I were thinking about using “Want to Grow Old With You” as our first dance song, but had not really mentioned it to anyone. Towards the end of my friends’ wedding, Fiance and I were in the hall, signing the guest book, when we heard someone on the microphone say “This song reminds me of you two, so I would like to dedicate it to the new husband and wife!” The bride and groom then danced to “Want to Grow Old With You”. I peaked in and they were the only ones on the dance floor and every one was watching – it was like a second first dance. Other guests have commented that it was their favorite part of the whole wedding.
I immediately flipped out to Fiance, saying there’s no way we could use that as our first dance song now. I already feel awkward about the Bridesmaid or Best Man situation and other similar elements. I feel like using that song will look like we stole the idea from them (even though we didn’t!).
Am I crazy? Would it be weird to use the song or am I just worrying about nothing?