Post # 1
So when we were searching for a venue, we narrowed it down to two of them.
The first one, we both fell in love with. It was at a golf course, very elegant, and had gorgeous views. Everything in the venue was included (chairs, tables, food, drinks, cake, centerpieces, etc). All we had to provide was the music and attire. The only down side was the price and the fact that we wouldn’t be able to taste the food until the wedding. Also, they weren’t very flexible with some of our requests. We were willing to look past the downfalls and choose this place. My mom even offered to help us pay for it since she fell in love with the place as well.
The second one, was OK. Nothing too special about it other than the service. The manager there was great and very accomodating. She is letting us “bend” some of the rules in order to accomodate our wedding. She invited us to taste the food (awesome) and we were introduced to the rest of the staff (super friendly). It is also half the price of the other one.
Here was the dilemna, my future mother-in-law is a wedding coordinator. She can’t really afford to help us out financially so her only way was to help with the planning process. If we choose the venue we fell in love with, she wouldn’t really be involved since everything was already included. So she persuaded us into choosing the other venue. And we were OK with that. My fiance is her oldest and only son and I know she has been dreaming of planning his wedding for a LONG time.
Well now, I am starting to hate the place. I went to see it again and it is ugly, old, and plain. I feel like we are spending more money on “dressing it up”. But she says she can make it look really nice.
My question is this: Should I choose another venue and hurt her feelings AND loose my deposit? Or should I just keep the venue and suck it up. Am I just freaking out for nothing? The wedding is in less that 5 months and I know it will be very stressful (and probably more expensive) to find another venue.
Post # 3
I would go with the venue that provides the best service… from what I’m getting from your post, that’s the one you went with. They are working with you (food tasting, rules) instead of just saying “this is our policy, take it or leave it.” That speaks volumes to me as a customer. Plus, it’s less expensive and your Future Mother-In-Law gets to help you. Believe me, I understand about loving new venues compared to ones that are a little bit older and within budget. You might just have to bite the bullet and choose to view the venue for its better qualities. Hopefully your guests will understand why you went with the second place too.
Post # 4
@Jamiezilla: Yes, you are right. And I am very pleased with their service. I think I’m just having some wedding anxiety since the date is getting so close. I love my mother in law and I know it means the world to her to be helping out. Besides, I will be so happy on the wedding day, that I wont even care if the reception is under a bridge! lol
Post # 5
I think you should stay where you are at. We did the opposite. We booked the venue we were in love with that is excatly like how you describe. The woman who showed us around was friendly, and I made sure to mention we would have to do things on a different time table than what they were used to due to us being out of town. We signed the contract and then the woman left. The new girl will not talk to me about anything, she keeps saying that I have to talk to someone else closer to the wedding. (My wedding is in less than 3 months) We can’t taste the food until the week before, and can’t have a DJ past 10pm. (Did I mention this place is EXPENSIVE). My most recent question was to schedule the rehersal dinner, and the response was that they could put us down, for the day we needed, but nothing is set in stone. Right NOTHING is set in stone because you wont talk to me about MY wedding. We are now looking to break contract and find a venue thats much cheaper, with better service, even if we have to do more to make it what we want.
Trust me…Stay where you are at, it will only end in heartbreak later.
Post # 6
@dallasbride2012: Oh NO! I am so sorry to hear of your nightmare. Must be very stressful. That’s exactly what I was afraid of with the first venue. The staff was nice but I didn’t really feel like I had a connection with them. It felt like I was just “another bride” to them. I asked them the reason behind no food tasting and all they said was “because we know our food is soooo good, we dont see the need for you to taste it.” Plus the hours were only from 6-10pm, music couldnt be too loud, we had to be on their schedule, blah blah blah. So think of it, I am feeling much better with my decision to go with the other venue.
If I was you, I would give them a call and tell them that if they don’t get their heads together, you will look for another venue. Maybe if you threaten them, they will be more willing to help you. Speak up girl!