- Miss Tattoo
- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
Sounds effing crazy right? Well, Mr. Tattoo has been out of steady work for a year now. The freelance projects are nice when they come around because they are large projects where he’s doing web design and programming for $6k. That doesn’t happen all the time. Sometimes we have a month where he’s only getting business cards and logo requests and sometimes it’s custom blog requests. Those little projects have kept us above water, but I had to take action.
Before him I was a single mom so I have the mindset that I will do what I have to do to survive and protect my child. As long as she is fed, clothed, warm/cool, and rent is paid, I am good.
We have basically blown through our savings. It’s not hard to do. I thought I made great money until I had another adult to take care of.
So I recently picked up a second job at [insert popular lab] I didn’t go to college and have been working since 16. I have so much exp in basically everything. I type 80 wpm with little to no mistakes and I know all of Microsoft Office programs. I’ve even dealt with large sums of money and can do accounting procedures and auditing. My resume looks crazy. Anyway, I work 4am-8am at the lab handling specimens and data entry. From 6-8am I check in patients and file crap. Then I go to work at my main job from 10:30-7 and then go back to the lab on some nights during the week from 8pm to Midnight. This is M-F
I just got another job offer as a senior service trainer at [insert family eatery] for weekends only. I talked to the manager when I first applied (before I got hired at the lab) and told him I would only be able to work weekends or the late dinner shift. So he decided that having me on the weekends was worth it and offered me the position. It would only be $5.15/hr plus tips which is pretty awesome considering it’s usually $3.50/hr plus tips. So I could work there Friday (I would have to change my schedule at the lab) and Saturday nights and have Sunday off.
Here’s the thing. I don’t mind working like this because I know it’s not going to be forever. I’m bummed that I’m not spending as much time as I can with my daughter, but I feel better knowing I am keeping us off welfare and she isn’t going without. I don’t want to have to tell her that we can’t go to the science center or to Chuck E. Cheese because we don’t have money.
My issue is with Mr. Tattoo. Me taking the job at [insert lab] has been a big blow to his self esteem. He feels like I shouldn’t have had to take on an extra job. He’s becoming depressed because he went to college for four years to get his degree and has 10 years of exp in programming/software/design/ect but no one is hiring. He can’t even get an office job doing filing or a job at a gas station because everyone says he’s “over qualified” If anyone should feel bad it should be me, because I have no problem getting this shit jobs where he has applied at Sheetz gas station and didn’t even get a call. I don’t want to take on the serving job if it’s going to make him feel even worse.
I’m trying to reason with myself that it’s just temp. We need to catch up on everything and fill our savings back up and move forward with wedding planning.
I’m going to talk about it with him tonight, but what would you do if you were in my shoes?
Sorry that it’s so long! I ramble when I’m tired!
ETA: Edited to erase names of employers. I’m dumb and tired! lol