Post # 1
I am moving out and my bf’s mom want me to produce a gift list. She mentioned that she would pass it around to get people to buy the items. My mom she prefers my bf’s mom give money instead because right now I need money for bigger items like bed, couch not on pots, pans and dishes. In addition, my mom doesn’t like to force people to buy things. Right now I have a lot to deal with like school, work, and mortgage shopping. After I have to shop for internet so I want to just give out the list so I have one less thing to deal with. My mom’s sugestion is to hold onto the list so that bf’s mom have no choice but to give money instead. SHould I give the gift list or follow mom’s suggestion
Post # 2
vortex: I would set up a formal registry to keep people happy. You can usually put big ticket items like furniture on there too – sometimes people will chip in a buy it, or they’ll see that you want some big things and give you money or gift cards. The idea of writing a list is a little santa wish list to me and I would raise an eyebrow if someone came to me with the list (unless they sold pampered chef or something and you’d set up a list with them – my mom made me do this, only she and my siblings bought things from that list).
Post # 3
A gift list for what? Like for wedding gifts, or just for things your BF’s mom thinks you need?
Post # 4
My bf’s mom was going to buy things like pots. The purpose of this gift list is to that she doesn’t buy stuff that I don’t need and also my bday is coming up and I am moving in a week before Christmas so this also prevents my bf from buying stuff I need. I don’t really feel confortable giving a gift list either.