- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
So, I have been planning my wedding for over almost a year and a half. My wedding is 2 months away and so far, every single one of my bridesmaids have given me a problem in one form or another.
My Maid/Matron of Honor, my sister is a spaz and I never know if she is going to be there from one day to the next and even if she is, she is so shy it will be like asking a 3 year old to walk down the aisle so, she is kind of a stand by for the title.
My back up Maid/Matron of Honor who was the only one actually excited to be in the wedding knows the story and agreed to take over the Maid/Matron of Honor duties if my sister couldn’t perform. However, she has since gotten pregnant (planned it) and is due the week after my wedding. Since she had her last baby early it is fairly certain she will not be at the wedding at all now – because she will have just given birth or getting ready to and won’t be able to travel.
One of my bridesmaids is from this area and her family lives here but now lives in another state and hasn’t kept in touch much except to tell me she is having money issues and kinda making me feel like it is very inconvenient for her to do this.
Another just had a baby in the fall and clearly having body issues and repeatedly ignores my requests for her to try on one of the two dresses I bought for her. Did, I mention my wedding is in 2 months?
And at last another went from zero tatoos to covering her entire back with them in the last few months. – this one I really don’t care about. At least they are pretty floral tatoos.
The thing is, I bought every single one of their dresses myself so that they wouldn’t be out any money to be in the wedding except for their travel expenses so that they wouldn’t look at it as being an inconvenience but, yet they still are. The final straw was last night when I was talking to the one who is having body issues about asking another friend to be a bridesmaid and she popped up and said “she can take my place!”, “I really don’t want to do it, I am just doing it for you.”!
After everything else, I was in between wanting to scream and wanting to burst into tears. I am honestly at a loss. My fiance’s friends are so excited to be in the wedding but none of the girls are and you would think the opposite. I am considering telling people they are relieved of their obligations and they are welcome as a guest.
So, I would love to hear any opinions on this and what you think I should do.
Just to be clear…I am not writing off my friends or kicking them out of the wedding because they are having personal issues. I am asking if I should relieve them of their obligation to be in the wedding.
Thanks so much for listening 🙂