Should I respond?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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257 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@AnonHoney:  That is a tricky one. It really depends on the situation and the kind of relationship I have/had with that person. I would probably respond something along the lines of: “I am sorry to feel this way, can we meet up for coffee and talk things through?”.

Post # 4
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478 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Is this person a friend? I guess it really depends on the relationship you want to keep. Me personally, if it was someone I really didn’t want in my life, then I probably wouldn’t answer. If you care about them then I would probably do what the PP said.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@AnonHoney:  Were you aware that you’ve hurt the person? Are the things they wrote justified? How close are you two together? Is that person looking for an apology? I’d offer to meet in person or talk over the phone.

Post # 6
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1287 posts
Bumble bee

For me, I’m 39….I would read it, and move on. There are better things out there in life than drama with other people.  I’ve decided to cut people out of my life that cause problems or drama.  I like my happiness I’ve found in my life and I don’t need people bringing me down.

 

A long time ago, first thing I would want to do is fire back at them.  But if you want to reply back, my advice is to take a few days to think about it and what you want to say before you go off the deep end and say things you don’t want to say.  Taking a few days gets the anger out of your mind.  Be nice. Kill them with kindness. That will piss them off.

 

Post # 7
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2063 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@AnonHoney:  honestly I’d probably respond:

“I respect and understand why you feel that way and I hope we could talk about this and move forward. I dont want the past to ruin our future friendship.” 

talking about things like this over email never ends well. If it’s a friend I would invite them over. Sometimes people just need to he heard and feel like the person understands before they can move on. 

Post # 8
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7075 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

It really depends on who the sender was for me. If it was a “friend” I’d probably just ignore it and not contact them again. Not worth the drama llama.

Post # 9
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122 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I wouldnt bother either, in my opinion, if they cant tell you to yout face, then theyre clearly not worth the effort x

Post # 10
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765 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@AnonHoney:  depends on who sent it to me. If it’s someone that I rarely see or don’t need in my life, like a friend, probably not. Mostly because I would find hiding behind a screen cowardly and frankly if you cannot say something to my face, I’ve no time nor respect for you.

If it’s family or a friend that is more involved in my life, then my response would be to call them on the phone and ask to meet in person to talk about it.

Post # 11
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668 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Are you still friendly? I have some family members that are hyper-sensitive and take insult where none was intended, in addition to having an extremely self-centered view on the actions of others. To keep the peace, I generally issue an apology that is true (“I am sorry that something I did/said hurt your feelings”) and move on. Defending or explaining can help with a misunderstanding, but with this type of person I have found it to be counterproductive if the list of real/perceived wrongs is long.

Post # 12
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2114 posts
Buzzing bee

@AnonHoney:  depends who it is and why they are saying these things

Post # 13
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135 posts
Blushing bee

A first reaction is getting defensive.  Don’t reply until you’ve fully absorbed it, gotten over yourself, and can look at it subjectively.  Being rash will hurt your situation, tempting as it might be.

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