(Closed) Should I sack my MOH?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I don’t envy your position! That’s really tough to remove somebody from your bridal party… and retain the friendship. Do you think you could ask her if she would mind stepping down given that it would obviously mean so much more to  your sister but that you would value her being there (and offer to pay for the dress!)? If you leave the final decision with her, you are banking on her doing the right thing but perhaps she won’t be as mad? That being said, I don’t think you can ask her not to come to the wedding. Ultimately, if you want to keep the frienship, I think you might have to give a little too…

It doesn’t sound like she has done a lot to support you, during a really big time in your life– getting married and becoming a mom! If it were me, I probably wouldn’t get into that though… Just to avoid offending her and to keep the peace. I think her wedding is certianly inconvenient, but not really something  you can be mad about. Surely she realizes that you won’t be able to be her MOH, given that you are due to give birth so close to the date. Just some ideas… hopefully that helps!

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

I agree with @sj8082:  if you want to keep the friendship, you can’t uninvite her to your wedding!

If I were you, I wouldn’t ask your current MOH to step down, I would maybe add your sister because

a) sides don’t have to be even

b) people should understand because it sounds like for awhile you didn’t know if she was going to be able to make the wedding at all.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Eh…generally I would say that you can’t “sack” bridal party members, but I agree that it might be appropriate to ask if she would mind stepping down since your sister is suddenly able to come. I wouldn’t uninvite her to the wedding, though. 

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