Should I say anything to her? very long

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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5633 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Tigerlilybride:  You said, “I feel like I should be the bigger person and just let her go.”  Good instinct, do that.  It sounds like you’ve had a lot of drama in your life recently.  Choosing to let her go from your life will be a good step in the drama-free direction.

 


 

Post # 4
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4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I find this story hard to follow, but you need to cut all these people out of your life and never look back. 

Post # 5
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1820 posts
Buzzing bee

I’d probably be the bigger person and just walk away, but I also hate confrontation. If you feel like you need a bit of closure you could contact her and just say that you told her those things in confidence, and you’d really appreciate if she’d keep those things to herself from now on, but that you dont feel like your relationship is healthy any longer.

Post # 6
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7656 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Tigerlilybride:  Sorry, but sending her something nasty and mean isn’t going to make you a better person or break her down. This whole ridiculous, immature saga will continue, and I highly doubt now that you are married that you want to deal with this unncessary drama. Just forget it and cut her out of your life. She isn’t worth it.

Post # 7
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1673 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@cbgg:  +1 Wise words.

Post # 9
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1534 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Tigerlilybride:  Forget about her.  If she is spreading lies about you then she doesnt care about you.  Don’t give her any thought what-so-ever..rise above the lies and negativity and you will feel better.

Post # 10
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1413 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

You’re married now, right? Try focusing on that and leaving the drama behind.

Post # 11
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942 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Tigerlilybride:  Why would your wedding be cancelled?

I’m also a practicing Christain, and my priest would never interfere with something so silly and petty. I can’t believe these people act like high school children. You and your FI are adults and can conduct your own lives and relations.  

Seems like your future FIL will have a lot of influence over how your marriage is conducted in the future if he’s so concerned about this silly stuff now… 

Unless they DO have real reason to believe it’s unhealthy, it seems a bit insane to me… 

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