- 4 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
I have pieces of this in a lot of my other posts but for the most part it doesn’t make sense without the whole story. Anyways, DH and I are young Christians. At the beginning of the summer we went to work at a very small Bible camp, I have been working there for 4 summers now and this was his first. My MOH was also there, as well as a lot of friends.
The day the first camp starrted, DH and I had a serious conversation,. It was only about 10 minutes long, and it was just about my wories about his bachelor party. We figured it all out, we just had to talk it through before the campers arrived. Well just as we were about to go join the other staff, the director came and gave us this huge speech about how no one should even know we’re in a relationship and no one person should be more important than the team and that if we had a problem we needed to work it out now. He made me cry, that kind of thing always does. For some reason he was then telling the program director that DH and I were fighting all week, and the program director told his “friend”, MOH, that too. She ended up thinking that we are emotionally abusive, and backed out of the wedding a week before. I had no idea what she was talking about at the time, but I still wanted to be her friend. I told her a couple of very personal things and left it at that.
Fast forward a week exactly, its two days before our wedding at the same camp. FIL, our officiant, comes to my house to tell me he’s been getting phone calls all morning of people telling him all the awful things DH and I have done. Wouldn’t you know it, the personal things I told her are being told to him. But not by her, by the camp director! Dh and I are being accused of starting drama and causing division among the staff, and we aren’t even there. When she finally does call, she tells FIL a LOT of lies, including that we practically forced her to go clubbing (I told her we were going and she asked to come along).
And there’s one other thing. Right before she talked to me about not coming to the wedding, we were sitting in our cabin talking to one of our campers. MOH told this girl that for the past year she had been trying to get rid of bad influences in her life, such as bad music and alcohol. I KNOW that this is a lie, she has texted me drunk way too many times.
What I’m really trying to figure out though, is should I say anything to her about all of this. I really really want to send her something nasty and mean. Because I absolutely do not want to be her friend after she almost got our wedding cancelled. At the same time I feel like I should be the bigger person and just let her go. But I hate to think that it would end on her terms like that.