Post # 1
I just joined and LOVE bee, but the longer I am on bee, the more and more I want my SO to propose! Today my SO commented that I’ve been pushy lately about getting engaged! I am VERY ready to get engaged and the bee boards accentuate my readiness. I think hes ready as hes made hints about going ring shopping, but I’m somehow being pushy when I start showing him what rings I like and don’t like.
I think I just really need a reality check and I need to shut down my bee account for a while. I also need to stop looking at erings and stop being so obsessed with getting engaged! AHH its so hard because I want to so bad, but if he feels I am being pushy then I guess I should stop.
Is there anyone else out there who feels the same way?
Post # 3
@SimplyEuphoric: Only you know the answer to that. If you feel like you need a break until you are actually engaged, then there is nothing wrong with that.
Post # 4
@SimplyEuphoric: I can totally understand where you are coming from. I found WB shortly before I got engaged, and it did make me a little obsessive, although I was good about controlling myself around FI.
If you think you need to take a step back, then deactivating your account is a good idea. It may give you some perspective.
Post # 5
@SimplyEuphoric: No need to leave. These boards can cause all kinds of envy for everyone. Married, engaged, waiting, pregnant and TTC. Don’t get discouraged from reading about other people’s situations. Every couple is different and your time will come when you’re both ready.
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rosehill Community Center
@Aquaria: True story. I have never thought I would be baby crazy, but I can’t help but read tons of the pregnancy/baby boards and feel a twinge every now and then!
OP, you should maybe try to avoid the wedding/engagement/proposal boards somewhat, and instead stick to the others! It’s painful after awhile to see all the other people getting engaged and married while feeling like you’re stuck.
For alternate entertainment, I suggest searching all the ghost story boards, some people on here have some CRAZY stories, and it is October…
Post # 7
@SimplyEuphoric: i can only imagine. it’s like going to a chocolate factory when you’re on a diet. you may want to avoid certain topics on wb so that you stop punishing yourself.
Post # 8
I’m waiting too! It’s hard seeing other people getting engaged when you really want to but I don’t think you need to stay away. Try checking out NWR or dress forums, you can still have all the Weddingbee fun without the “I-need-to-get-engaged-now” thing gnawing at you. It’s totally working for me 🙂
Post # 9
@Aquaria: That’s a good point. I’m sure the ladies struggling to conceive feel a pang of envy when they read pregnancy announcements (and I am sure they are also very happy for the pregnant bee). I can imagine it would be challenging to hear about someone getting pregnant on the first try when you’ve been trying for ages.
There are always things to be envious about. We just have to learn to curb it.
Post # 10
I know what you mean as I am waiting on my ring too. Iv picked it and it’s being paid off ( by end jan iv been informed) and sometimes get obsessed looking at others rings and stories. Sometimes I go away for a few days but I always miss the female online company lol. I’m trying to tell myself this will be the last time my hands have no ring so enjoy them while I can.
Post # 11
Girl, right there with you. I’ve done what the other bees have suggested and looked at the “wedding” section pretty sparingly. The DIY boards are AWESOME. I’ve gotten SO many ideas for crafts to do to keep me busy and my mind off OMG PROPOSE RIGHT NOW.
Besides, where else can we waiting bees air out our crazy?? 😉
Post # 12
Once you get over the jealousy you will find that the bee is a wonderful community of women (and some men!) and you might even make friendships with some of the bees (waiting and not waiting).
I used to feel how you do, but I have learned to be happy for the bees to that get engaged and not jealous! I know my time will come and yours will come too! And probably sooner than you think! If you really feel you need to leave, then take a break and come back when you’re ready.
One thing I learned from the bee is to appreciate what I have right now, because even though there isn’t a ring on my finger, my SO loves me and I share a home and a life with him. Nothing could beat that, and no label could ever truly describe the love that my SO and I have for one another. Find the things you are thankful for, it’ll make you feel better!
Post # 13
@NowDontLetsBeSilly: I don’t mean to thread jack, but theres ghost boards!? Tell me more… 🙂
Post # 14
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rosehill Community Center
@vintagebride143: They are so scary and creepy to read, if you like scary stories definitely search for them! I guess they are technically just “threads” not “boards”, but there have been a few over the years.
Post # 15
@NowDontLetsBeSilly: Shut the front door! Going to search now!
Post # 16
I love this site because I can get my ering and proposal fix without constantly talking/obsession to my bf so he gets less wedding pressure. I will think of wedding/engagement stuff whether I am on here or not and this is a good outlet for me. But if it is the other way around for you, it might be time to take a little break.