- 5 years ago
Me and my SO have a timeline and that timeline is up on September 4th (my birthday). We have our venue booked already for September 21st 2013 so we know this is happening, but we’re not saying anything to our friends and family until he has a ring.
He has the stone and just needs to get it set, but I’m worried he won’t get it done soon enough.
We work together. We’re with each other 24/7 and he hasn’t had any time away from me outside the flat for any extended periods of time (I’ll go out for coffee, or he’ll work in his home office – but we haven’t been apart for more than an hour for over a month now, so I know it hasn’t been done yet. He hasn’t had the time to go and speak to someone about a design and he’s been clear he wants to get it done by a local designer so he can speak to them in person. I believe him.
The problem is, my birthday is less than 8 weeks away and when I googled companies that made bespoke rings in the area, they all took 4 weeks upon completion of the design.
I worry that he’ll go to speak to someone about a design too late and not realise how long it will take – and so not have the ring in time.
I know he wants it to be a surprise, so I’m guessing he doesn’t want to do it on my birthday, but any later will make me anxious (especially as the wedding will be coming up to a year away and we need to seriously start making plans with family) and earlier just doesn’t seem possible.
Do I express my concerns to him? Should I mention that it can take a month for the ring to me made? Or do I keep quiet and hope he has it under control?
I don’t want him to get annoyed at me for ‘nagging’ at him or ‘ruining the surprise’, but I also don’t want him to make his classic mistake of not checking things (he didn’t get the stone size I wanted because they sold out – despite me telling him the stock was low) and making me upset.
I know this comes across as petty, especially as I know the proposal is coming soon, but i can’t help but feel like if he goes beyond this, he’ll have let me down again. which is ridiculous, right? but he never thinks about things and I just want him to think about this important thing for once.
Basically, if I say something I’ll ruin any chance of him geniunely doing something good and thoughtful for me. (if he has thought of it)
If I don’t say anything, I run the risk of him not thinking and not having my ring done – and then getting hurt.