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posted 1 year ago in Relationships
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    His Barista    September 4, 2010   Spokane, WA

    My good friend S was a BM in our wedding. Needless to say, we have both been very busy recently and haven't gotten together since New Year's.

    the other day, I sent S a message to ask about getting together soon because I missed her. Her reply?

    "I don't think that is going to happen. I lost my job at Jack in the box and moved back to live with my parents."

    Say what?! Sure, that's a bummer. The catch? Her parents live 3 hours away...

    As it turns out she didn't tell any of us that she was having such a hard time...except for her (in our opinion) douche of a BF that lives with her when he's not working in Montana.

    So...should I call her and say something about it? Or should I just let it go? Some of us have been concerned by her behavior since after my wedding but I'm not sure what to do here. = (

     
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    BackyardLoveBird    April 8, 2011   AZ

    I would ask if there is anything she needs you to do.  Tell her you are there for her if she needs anything.  Perhaps make some plans to drive the 3 hours to see her.

     
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    Moose1209       Nashville, TN

    I'm not sure what you mean by "say something about it".  I do think you should call her and give her support and offer any help you can give since she is obviously going through a really difficult time.  I wouldn't however call her and give her a hard time about not saying anything about the situation to you.  It can be really hard and embarrassing to admit to your friends that you are in financial trouble.

     
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    babydollgirl    January 20, 2012  

    I complete agree with Moose1209 I was about to say the same.

     
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    His Barista    September 4, 2010   Spokane, WA

    I wouldn't give her a piece of my mind...I was just wondering if I should bring up the fact that she moved, period.

    I mean, she could have said she was transfering if she didn't want to say she lost her job, and in the past she has been very open with me about everything (from finances, to her bowl movements, to possibly moving to Montana with the BF), which is what has me concerned and hurt.

     

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