Post # 1
Ok, Ladies, I need your opinion.
6 months ago, my SO and I agreed on a timeline. The deal was that we would be engaged by the time we renewed our lease (April 1st). Obviously, that date has passed. Not far past, but our agreement was to be engaged BEFORE we renewed it. I renewed it anyway because SO has had the ring in his possession for over a month and a half so I know it’s coming eventually.
It’s killing me to know that he has had multiple opportunities to propose and hasn’t (Leap Day, Valentine’s, Our Anniversary, or any day in between!) So far, I haven’t brought it up because I didn’t want to ruin any surprises that he might have planned. But now what our timeline has passed, I wonder if my King of Procrastination is just going to keep on waiting because he can.
Do I address the passed timeline or just keep my mouth shut and wait?
Post # 3
April 1st has come and gone. I would say something.
Post # 4
I wouldn’t say anything, its been all of 4 days.
Post # 5
@Black-Eyed-Susan: I would def. say something.
Post # 6
If you know that he has the ring, don’t say a WORD! He’s clealy gonna do it at some point, and he probably has a date in mind to make it really special. Just enjoy this waiting time, like an extended Christmas morning! (insert any other religious holiday that includes presents here).
Post # 7
Well, he has the ring so I would let it go a little while longer.
Post # 8
I might wait a few more days, but then I would say something casually like, “Oh wow, is it the middle of April already?”
Post # 9
I would stay quiet for now, if you know he has the ring then it could be anytime!
Post # 10
@MissNoodles: <– What she said!
Post # 11
I’d say wait out the weekend, maybe he has something planned this weekend? And if by the time the next waiting list comes out, if you’re still on it, say something 🙂
Post # 12
I would only stay quiet this weekend. Maybe he has something special planned? If nothing, then I would say something. You had an agreement and he didn’t honor it!
Post # 13
He might be waiting to make the surprise all the more surprising, or he might have a plan he needs to complete. Try not to worry about it, and if you find yourself doing so, just remind yourself that he bought you a ring! 🙂
Post # 14
Stay quiet! I’ve read too many stories on here about women who confront their men (sometimes with a big blow up)… Just to realize that the SO was planning to propose in the next couple weeks-month… It’s not worth the blow up to ruin the surprise or hurt him etc…
Wait it out 🙂
Post # 15
Wait until the end of this month…. then bring it up.
Post # 16
@happyface: I agree!
I voted to say something, but I would give it a month before you do. Give him a chance. If he hasn’t done anything by May 1st, then just mention something to him.