- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2010
OK Bee’s! I will TRY to keep this short as possible….
I am planning my wedding in a different state then the wedding is going to take place in which = not easy and not so fun! So basically its in my home town, I went into the military which took me away and I live far from home now so in the year plus I have been engaged now I have been able to make it home THREE times to do wedding stuff, wedding is in three months and I wont be back again until the wedding!
Anyways, besides the fact that I totally wish I would have done a destination or SMALL wedding now, because this has been not much fun! Thank goodness its getting close to the day and will all be over with! If it werent for my mother who works two jobs already to TRY to take a day off when I come home or stay up late with me when I was home to work on stuff….I think I would have thrown in the towel on this wedding.
Breaking it down, I have six bridesmaids total, three IN THE STATE the wedding is in, and the other three live as far away as I do and would LOVE to help but cant do much for obvious reasons! For the three that live in state….one works FOUR jobs! Enough said right? OK my MOH who is in state, is a RN and works a STUPID ammount, last I was home she swung by to visit and catch up one evening after working like 80 hrs in the last six days….which is hard but I understand that my MOH is limited with time and help! UNDERSTANDABLE! BM # 3 that is in the area….well worked and loved about 1.5 hrs away the first TWO times I went home, since then has been laid off work and has nothing….here is where I am going….
BM #3 is the ONLY family member standing up on my side, its my cousin, my bro is standing on my FI side and they are the only family members in the wedding party. So lets add some more crazyness into the mix, my bro is getting married TWO WEEKS after me, but it has all worked otu great, I love his FI, we are so close already, they too are planning there wedding in my and my bro’s home town and THEY dont live there either (also military) so his FI and I have been each others sanity, and call eachother lots to help e/o out with wedding stuff and sress of living so far away etc….
man this is so hard to try to keep short! (sorry) OK so she is not from same State my bro and I are from, she does not know the area, so she planned to go there to do some last oppertunity wedding stuff, and we talked sooo much and wished I oculd go, but I could just not swing it $$$ to get a ticket to fly back! So she asked my cousin who is no longer employed if she could help and that she would pay for her gas and what not if my cus would drive her around and help with her wedding stuff. Ok remember this is my BM #3….
So I last minute think of it, I have enough skymiles to get a free ticket, so I am last min on a plane back home to help my future sister in law out too! She has only been there a couple times, kinda knows my family, but not NEARLY as close as we are already, so I know a more familiar person would help!
So trying to wrap it up now….I went home last minute to help my future sis out, my BM#3 cousin is helping too…..I get there, and BM#3 is being Soooooo COLD to me, like acted surprised I was in my brothers wedding with a snarly like comment of “oh! Your in there wedding” yes my only sibling wedding I am in! brushed it off but even my bro’s FI caught that one!
Then, the rest of the time it was like I was not there, like she would be at my house back home, say goodbye to everyone when she left and give hugs, and not even look at me and walk out! I would try to join in on a topic we were discussing and its like I was not there and no one said anything! OK so its like she was mad I came home and she could not be my brothers FI’s “Star helper” or something! LIke she was mad I came home! Mind you again, this is one of my BM who has never offered to help me, knows NOTHING about my wedding, and its like she was trying to kiss my bro’s FI’s you know what so much…..that within all that did not realize the NUMEROUS ways she knocked MY WEDDING! Like she would be ranting about how THEY are doing things (For my bro’s Wedding) that We are NOT doing or doing different and its “Ohhh thats way better, or I like that better, or I dont like it the other way thats tacky” WHATEVER!!! So I got pretty fed up but managed to hold my tongue!
Here is ONE for examply, @ my bro’s wedding they are mixing it up at the head table, not traditional guys on one side and girls on the other (Like I am doing) She was going on about how that is “BETTER then the regualr way” because then all the BM flowers are not one ONE SIDE, so all I say, nicely even with a smile “thats why you put the BM flowers across the whole table” She SNAPS back at my in a PO’d voice “NO! SOME BM LIKE TO HAVE THERE FLOWERS IN FRONT OF THEM TO MAKE SURE THEY DONT GET MESSED UP!!!”
Wowzer! Thats just ONE of the things I am talking about with this BM#3! What you think bee’s hould I say something?
KEEP IN MIND TWO THINGS: One she has always been childish, this I know, I do love her, she is family, and I have always been the “bigger” person, even though she is three years older then me! ( I am 26, she is 29) But I figure and I am upset because this is important to me, its my wedding, and I dont want drama or attitude on my day, even though I prob wont notice it, some of my other BM would not stand for it and I dont want Drama!
TWO: sseing that she is childish and can be VERY immature, confronting her on this may NOT og over well, she is the sort of person to hold a grudge, she wont just let this go! Like not kidding bee’s this could be a year plus grudge she holds if she feels “attacked”
This SUCKS huh?