- 9 years ago
- Wedding: August 2009
like most women I always envisioned my wedding day to be flowy white dress beautiful ceremony, surrounded by family and closest friends, red roses
fast forward I want to keep within a budget and everything’s ballooning, I have more flowergirls and another bridesmaid, all in my sis family, I’m buying the gowns, but then I have to sacrifice something on my wedding, flowers, my place is lavish enough, my biggest splurge was venue, at the Waldorf, but I limited my guestlist to about 50-60, the caterer let me haggle with him and I shaved off 50 per person, but now the wedding party is bigger and i love my sis but she has growing family and I’m helping get her the 4 dresses for her kids and herself.
I’m also paying for this by myself no help from any rich parents, my fiance will take care of our second wedding in his country, I want a beautiful wedding but I feel so bad draining my savings, help, what are other ways can I cut down? I ‘ve already found great deals for NYC, bargained did a lot on my own, how to have a classy wedding without cutting back the essentials so it no longer looks like a wedding, do I really have to cut out flowers and centerpieces so I can afford to pay my sisters dresses, my family struggles so I’m also helping to house them in an apartment I want to cry, I feel like I have to do everything myself, shouldering everything, I’m already scrimping in many ways trying not to sacrifice quality, but should I sacrifice flowers to pay for the other bills? I’m already cutting out extras, such as rehearsal dinner, brunch (we’re both not really american, he’s brit I’m Asian), where else can I cut down?I already bargained on photo my friend is doing it for only 1000, video I found at $275, dress is $300 is I can use my $500 gift certificate at Kleinfeld at a a sample sale where dresse are 800, I’m hiring someone to drive us in my beamer for 50 bucks instead of rolls royce, I have a free string musician, my friend is doing hair and make up free, I found a shuttle for transport for only $163, found a DJ in NY for only 500, no small feat where else can I scrimp, flowers are the last thing I can scrimp on, getting my favors and veil free from my mom who got it in the philippines.
my sis because I am fortunate to make a decent living) so I can keep the rest of my savings for a down payment for a house for both me and my sis, but it’s ballooning with all these little extras, I’m having a hard time, still wish I could do the flowers, but every time I add something it adds to a ballooning budget, I’ve always been frugal so this is killing me