Post # 1
Made another account to ask this so I don’t get attacked in other posts like before!
I am a young bee (just turned 21) and will be getting married in 2 months and 12 days (but who’s counting 😉 ). Fiance and I are both virgins and will be until then. I have never been to an OB mostly because I moved around a lot and partially because I’m terrified! 😛
My question is if I should try to find one in my new city and visit them sometime within the next 2 months, or if I should just wait until after the wedding. We are open to having children whenever they may come so I could potentially need one right away!
The other issue is that I am in school and 21 so I am still on my parents health insurance. My dad is a city employee a few hundred miles away from here so there is only one in network doctor within 75 miles of where i live. Come november I will be on FI’s insurance so it will be easier then!
Advice for this baby bee?
Post # 3
I went to the OB before getting married (we were virgins too), but mostly to get my IUD. I think that once you’re 21 you should be getting pap smears even if your a virgin (my OB did one for me), and I’ve also heard that it can be good for her to make sure everything is set to have sex. I would proably go even if you aren’t looking for BC, but I think you could probably get away with not going. If you do decide to go, try not to worry, it wasn’t traumatic or anything 🙂
Post # 4
Interesting, thanks for yor response. I guess it would be a good idea to go to make sure I am taking the right vitamins and such since I could get pregnant any time from that day on
Post # 5
We were virgins, so I only visited to get a birth control prescription. No pap, no pelvic, easy in and out.
I don’t see any reason you’d need to visit one but a lot of women like to check them out and maybe do a preconception visit. Prenatal vitamins might actually be cheaper with a prescription than over the counter so that’s something to think about too.
Post # 6
I was always under the impression that once you were eighteen OR sexually active you should be getting pap smears, etc. I would definitely go before you’re married.
Post # 7
@Neetch: Here’s are the latest:
The gyn I saw before I got married didn’t see the need to do a pelvic because I was low risk. I’m on the five year plan now although my midwife says I can go longer than that. I really think it depends on the individual.
Post # 8
@Neetch: Me too! I went when I was 17 even though I was a virgin at that time.
Post # 9
I would go; it can’t hurt.
Ando don’t be afraid! I know the thought of it must be scary.
It’s over in a few mins. and not at all embarassing. OB’s see vaginas all day every day!
Post # 10
I agree with all the other bees. It’s worth going in to the gyno just to make sure everything is ok. There’s no harm & it’s not as scary as it sounds: most doctors will make you feel at ease, especially if you’re upfront with them about this being your first visit & that you have not been sexually active.
Post # 11
Yep, you’re supposed to go at 18/when you’re sexually active. I will say that I went later than that, but ah well. You should be getting annuals for cervical and breast cancer checks, at the very least.
It’s really not as scary as you think–I used to be terrified, but it’s totally fine. My exam usually lasts a whole less than 10 minutes.
Post # 12
If you’re going to go, go to one near your home. That way in case you do get pregnant you have someone to turn to.
I don’t see any reason for you to go before marriage unless you want to.
It’s not my fav thing to do in the world, but I really don’t mind going to the OBGYN. She’s nice. Everytime I go, I just remind myself that she’s seen terrible things (STDs, cancer, etc) and that to her I probably look VERY normal down there. lol. It calms me down a little bit.
Post # 13
It doesn’t hurt to stop in just to get acclimated to the atmosphere, and make sure everything is tip-top. Plus it wouldn’t hurt to establish a relationship with an OB you like. If you don’t get the warm fuzzies from the person right away, you can search for another one before “crunch time” ensues. Although, I’m not sure how relevent this would be if you are switching insurance carriers soon.
Post # 14
Going to the gyno for paps and breast exams is a preventative measure. You are never too young for cervical, uterine, ovarian, or breast cancers. I know a girl who got uterine cancer at the age of 23 and had to have her uterus and ovaries removed. My mom was 30 when she got breast cancer, and in her treatment clinic there was a woman who was 26 and a woman who was 28. I’m not suggesting you start panicking and you should run out and get a mammogram – if you don’t have a history of breast cancer in your family I likely wouldn’t start those until about 35 (as long as you do self-exams or get them at the gyno). A doctor will know what breast tissue feels normal and what doesn’t. They will also be able to get a dossier started on you that they can use as a normal control – something to compare an abnormal test with in the event that does happen. Basically…the more history you have, the better.
The first time I went to the gyno I was terrified – but it gets easier and easier every time you go. You just have to remember that every woman has to do that at some point in their lives, and you probably don’t have anything going on down there that they haven’t seen before. Try not to stress about it too much, 5 years down the road and it will be no big deal at all and you’ll be chatting with your gyno about what’s new with you while she fishes around down south with her camera and swabs.
Post # 15
It’s incredibly important for women to take responsibility for their health, which definitely includes making sure you’re going to the gyno regularly.
Post # 16
You should go soon if you haven’t done been yet — 18 is the latest it is recommended to start. If you are still in school (university?) don’t you have a campus health clinic? Checkups are usually free for students. There’s also Planned Parenthood which is usually free if you are a student, or quite inexpensive. Both places are great resources for all sex-related questions you might have, too.