Post # 1
Ok ladies! I need help, yet again.
Here’s the deal. I have a step-father. He is an Atheist and a Democrat, the rest of his family is very Christian and Republican. Can you see where this is going? He has recently gone on a rant via email about both politics and religion to EVERY member of his family! I don’t think they will want to attend my wedding anymore, and honestly I can’t blame them. Is there a tasteful way to still send invites? I want them to know that I would still like them there, but I understand if they would feel uncomfortable attending. Many are from out of town and I’m sure it would turn into a week long ordeal for many of them. I was thinking maybe including a note in each of their invites? “Sorry he’s such an ass, but I still like you.” kinda thing. Probably a little more articulate 🙂 Any suggestions would be helpful! Has this ever happened to anyone else?
Thanks girlies! You’re awesome!!!
Post # 3
I don’t think that you should mention anything in the invite about how he went on a rant. Just send them the invite so they know that you would have liked them to be there. If you really feel the need to mention it, I would probably do it in a conversation outside of the invite.
Post # 5
Yes- I sent invites to all of my family members, even if I wasn’t sure they were planning to attend. People appreciate the gesture of knowing you thought to include them in your day- especially family.
Post # 6
- Wedding: March 2011 - The Viceroy
Don’t put any notes in with the invitations, just send them as is. A note would just draw attention to the rant anyway and you’re saying you still want them there with the invite alone. Just send the normal invitations as you would anyone else.
Post # 7
I agree with the previous posters. Yes, send out the invites and don’t mention the rant. They will have the option to RSVP yes or no. You could by word of mouth let them know that you would like to have them there too. They won’t be coming to your wedding to see him. They will be coming to see you and your FI.
Post # 9
ditto on what the others said.
Keep in mind – these people will be coming to support YOU. Most people will put their feelings about the one family member that drives them nuts aside to celebrate such an important event.
Good luck – and I hope your step-father can hold his tongue and keep it together!
Post # 10
Agreed, just send them as is! They aren’t obligated to accept the invitation, but it’s not your job to draw attention to the fact that invitations to events are always optional for the invitees.