Post # 1
I currently live in east texas and I am in the graduate MPA program at my local university. I am from the area but I moved away and I came back due to a family emergency and I got stuck here. I tried to just grin and bear it but people seems to be very segragated and even sometimes racist here. I was talking to a friend a few days ago about change and a guy came up to us and flat out told me that if I didn’t like it there that I should just go back to Mexico!(I am hispanic btw). I am really just aggravated with living here. I don’t do hunting, mudding, or fishing. It’s just not my thing, I guess I am a “city person” This is part of my issue.
Well, I rent a room from a friend and he told me that he may not be here after this school year and that he may(or may not) sell the house that he owns. When I asked him what he wants to do, he just tells me he doesn’t know. Well if he leaves, then I will have nowhere to stay and since I don’t know anyone here, it will be hard to complete my program. I was thinking about moving to a bigger city about 4 hours away that is hispanic friendly and I was wondering what you guys would do in my situation.
The bad part about this is that I also took out loans for this semester, but I am already cracking due to the stress since my program also is telling me now that they don’t know if they will count 9 hours(3 classes) because I took them in 2006-2007. The dept chair said that she would try to count them, but she couldln’t give me a guarantee. I also met two guys that are working in fields that I would like which is non profit and government and they don’t have MPA degrees and so I am starting to think that this degree is a waste of time. I also just got off the phone with my friend and she told me that I should indeed move to just “start over” and that I should just get out since I have too much bad history here, which is indeed true and why I left the first time! What should I do guys?
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@LovestoTravel: If you’ve already taken out the loans and it’s too late to disenroll and get the money back, finish the semester out first so you’re not completely wasting your money. Once the semester is over, I would move. Life is too short to be stuck in a little racist town like that.
Post # 4
@beachbride1216: I would normally do that, however, since I took two grad classes last year, these classes will not transfer since the most you can transfer in a grad program is usually 6 hours though in rare instances, it is 9 and I am taking a full load here.
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor
I think you should try to finish this semester, since you’ve already paid for it, and then move. Have you looked at University of Houston? They have a great MPA program, and Houston is a great city to live in – my husband and I are really really happy here. He has a lot of Hispanic friends and I don’t think racism is a big problem in Houston, it’s a super diverse city. Plus the city is doing very well economically and the job market is hot, so you might be able to find a job here that would pay for your master’s program. Good luck sweetie!!
Post # 6
@LovestoTravel: Honestly, stay and stick it out. I know it’s hard, but it’s only a few years and it looks like you’re already hittng your time limit with some of the credits and graduating. I know that racisim is really hard and there’s absolutely no excuse and you shouldn’t have to deal with it. The thing is, it’s always going to be there in one way or another. I’m not a person of color so I don’t pretend I know what it’s like in East Texas, but I CAN tell you:
I worked in the non-profit sector and am building my own for-profit international consulting company that specializes in government contracts. For one – it’s pretty rare that anyone works in a position of any power at all in the non-profit sector anymore without some sort of master’s degree. You’d basically be limited to development/proposal writing and even then most of those jobs are still master’s people. The technical expertise you should be learning in grad school should be the game changer there.
Secondly, people still treat others like shit. I am 27, have master’s degree, have worked and lived internationally for years and have general work experience few people have, even if they’re older than me. Does that mean people treat me with the respect I deserve? Heck no it doesn’t! This field is a good ‘ol boys club! I’ve had old men make disparaging comments about my accent (It’s midwestern and has faded a lot, but it’s there), others say they want to talk to my boss. “Excuse me?! I’m the Vice President of this company. I’m making the deal here.” I’ve regularly had other older people (mostly men because that’s who works in the places we work) smile cutely at me when I say I run my own company like it must be fake.
I can’t even imagine what it would be like if I didn’t have a Master’s Degree in International Law backing that up.
(Also, as an aside, if you want to work internationally, there are literally no jobs in international non-profit or government work for people without master’s degrees. Even if a job doesn’t say it on the form, they’re not going to hire someone with a BA/BS because they’ll have 400 applications with a MA or Phd.)
Sorry- I didn’t plan to write you a novel. And I probably didn’t give you the answer you were looking for, but it’s really hard in this field and I just want to share my experience with you.
Post # 7
@Mrs.LemonDrop: Hello, Mrs.LemonDrop(like your name btw!) I am glad that you decided to share your experience with me. I worked at a non profit too, but it was not a prestigious one or anything and I was the Program Director and the salary was kinda low.
I could probably handle the racism, I am calmer about it now. I guess the main things holding me back is if my university will count the classes that I took back in 2006-2007. My dept. chair said that they might, but if they don’t then that is 3 extra classes that I will have to take. They also can’t tell me this until the next semester starts which is mid January. The other deal breaker is that my roommate is leaving and I have no friends or family to fall back on if things go sour. I just don’t want to do the program get 2-3 classes away from finishing and then end up homeless and I have been homeless before so I know how difficult it can be. I guess this is what is really holding me back now, or do I just cancel the classes, pay an outstanding bill and then go to a city that has better resources..
Post # 8
ok, so my university has a counselor that you can talk to about things if you really need it and I decided to give that a try.
I think I made a huge mistake…
At first, she was helpful and she was offering solutions or whatnot. Some seemed fisible and others not so much. When we got into the social aspects of the situation, she told me that it seemed like I hated everyone here(not true) and that all I was doing was whining and complaining about the situation. She said she wanted me to turn my life around and to quit blaming others. I don’t see how it’s my fault that I get along with people in one place, but not in another. If anything, this lady makes me want to leave more.