Post # 1
I am just beginning my 2nd trimester and so far everything has been fine. My current gynecologist I switched to a few months before I found out I was pregnant. My last ob/gyn I went to for years on the recommendation of a family friend. Her office was always packed and there was usually a really long wait. I know she accepted medacaid also so maybe that’s why. I switched because I found her to be sorta cold. During my annuals she would come in, say hello, do my exam, say bye, and leave. I had to have minor surgery performed, which she did at a hospital. She met with me beforehand, but after the surgery, I never saw her again. I’m not sure if this is common place for doctors to just leave the hospital and never see the patient again. I didn’t see her again until my next appointment. I felt like I wanted to find a doctor who was, well, maybe a little bit warmer, even though I fully trusted her medical ability. Everyone I know goes to male doctors, which I don’t feel comfortable with.
I found my current doctor just by googling doctors in my area. She’s older and during my first visit, she would make small talk, etc and seemed friendly. Her office is always empty too, at most there have been 3 people ahead of me. On a personal level, I’ve been getting annoyed by her and started thinking if I want to stay with her. She has asked for my maiden name on several occassions already, why I have no idea. No doctor has ever asked me this. She has asked me where I work also many times, which I find irrelevant and also where my husband works. For one procedure, I informed her my insurance didn’t cover it, and she asked my husband once again where he works then saying how “oh, they should have better insurance”. I feel like she’s afraid she’s not going to get paid. Certain questions my husband have asked like “when can the baby hear” she’ll say “I have no idea.” Um, aren’t you a doctor? I am due for my 20 week sonogram soon and she can’t do it in her office bc they don’t the equipment so I have to go to the hospital. She’s nice in that she has given me a sonogram and pictures the past 2 times I’ve went to her, but then I am almost certain she said she doesn’t have a doppler to listen to the hearbeat. I’m under the impression that listening to the heartbeat is really important. She always gives my husband this look when he comes in the room with me, like she is annoyed that he is there or she never met him before. If I do decide to leave, I actually had my monthly appt this Monday but it got canceled, how would I ever find a new doctor? Should I just go back to my old one being that I went to her for a while, but does she even sound that much better? Any advice on what to do?
Post # 3
@FinallyMarried82: I’d switch. If you are not entirely comfortable with the dr who is going to deliver your child, switch.
Post # 4
I second that wholeheartedly.
Don’t stick with someone you aren’t comfortable with. Doctors are there to provide a service, and if you guys don’t click, then go find another.
Post # 5
I would switch. There are doctor reviews on yelp.com, so maybe that would be a place to start looking.
Post # 6
Something like this happened to me and I switched between my 2nd and 3rd trimester and it was the best decision I ever made. My old doc was so rude…got annoyed when I asked questions and I always had to wait forever for her. When I switched, my new docs were so nice (practice and every single one was wonderful), I cried b/c I never had such good care during my pregnancy.
I would go by recommendations of friends if you can. That’s how I found mine.
Best of luck.
Post # 7
I would go back to your old doc if I were you – you seem to have really trusted her medically, and it sounds like the new doc is doing more of the small talk that you wanted, but it hasn’t turned out to be what you were hoping it was … i.e. it’s actually annoying 🙂
I guess IMO, especially when the health of your baby is at hand, you should be working with a doctor who takes the best care of your health – not necessarily the one who is friendliest, and it sounds like your old doc was taking great care of your health. Maybe post-birth you could continue to look, but it seems risky to take any chances while pregnant. Not really the ideal time to be doctor shopping :/ (I realize you didn’t plan it that way; commiserating not criticising in case that didn’t come across right, hah).
Post # 8
I think it’s pretty common to meet with a few doctors when you’re pregnant or TTC to find someone you are confortable with since this is a lot more intensive than a once a year exam. I’d start with your insurance provider. I’d ask them for a list of what doctor’s are covered by your insurance and make some phone calls.
I do think it’s normal to ask for employment information and maiden name – at least it’s been on every single new patient or admission form I’ve ever filled out. But regardless, you should feel comfortable that your doctor knows what she’s doing and is putting you at ease.
A lot of obgyn offices do not have sonogram technology in their office and will send you to the hospital or another office. I think it’s pretty much larger offices that have them, like my office has the regular and 3D ultrasound equiptment but they have 4 midwives and 4 obgyns in the office and it’s the main office in the small city I live in.
Post # 9
What you say is true, as far the larger medical places have 3d images, etc, but is it normal for her to have never used a doppler on me to listen to the babies heartbeat or maybe not even own one? I thought this was pretty standard practice.
Post # 10
I’d definitely switch! See if you can get some recommendations from even aquaintances if you don’t have any friends that could refer you to an OB/GYN. My husband asked a woman he works with – that’s how I found my current doctor.
I used to go to one like your old one. Her office was in the middle of the city so it was always packed and there were always long delays – plus it was a long drive from work. My new doc is 10 mins from my office. I do feel like I have to be the one to ask about things (like he’s not going to give me a dissertation on what I should be feeling) but he always takes the time to answer my questions.
You’re going to spend some time with this doctor so you might as well find one you’re comfortable with.
As for the doppler – that’s pretty standard. The fact that you can rent them online for home use would make me question why a practicing doc wouldn’t use one.
Post # 11
I’d switch. This is an important thing happening to you and you need someone to answer questions and to worry about you, AND have updated medical equipment in their offices.
I would NOT go back to Dr. one, who knows when you’ll get an appointment. You can meet with a few different Dr.s and some of the best appointments don’t even include an exam, just a meeting with the dr. to discuss your questions and your worries.
Good luck hang in there.
Post # 12
I switched a little over half way through my pregnancy. I was very unhappy with my doctor and switched. I am beyond happy with my decision. I couldn’t continue going somewhere where I just wasnt comfortable.