Post # 1
I’m making an appointment with a therapist to help with my anxiety. I didn’t think that my neurosis and my fast talking (I slur words, too) was a symptom of anxiety but lo and behold, it is. The idea of telling DH makes me anxious, too.
I’m on the fence with not telling him. I feel like when I know what causes it and how to manage my anxiety/stress, I’ll tell him. I just think it seems unfair to unload this onto him without more information. What do you think?
Post # 3
I think that he is your husband. You tell him everything.
Post # 4
You should be able to talk to you DH about this. My FI was the one that pushed me to see a doctor and go on anti-depressants. He was my rock through the whole ordeal and i was so happy to have him supporting me every step of the way.
Your DH wont judge you. You would be surprised how much more aware of your struggles he probably is.
Post # 5
You need to tell him – think about the situation reciprocally. Would you want him to keep this from you?
Post # 6
Tell him. You share your life with this man, and that includes the up’s and the down’s.
Post # 7
@mnp: Beside your impending anxiety about telling him, is there any other reasons why you think you don’t need to share this?
Post # 8
@sienna76: I just think it isn’t serious? I have performance anxiety with work and school. I also don’t want him to feel like it’s him which it isn’t.
Post # 9
@mnp: I guess if you were to tell him (and I probably would), I’d say, “I’m working on being the best “me” I can be, so I started seeing a therapist to help me about my anxiety. I just thought you should know. That is all.”
How’s that for starters? 🙂 Most peple don’t seek out counseling for minor issues though.
I was mainly seeing if he was the cause of your anxiety.
Post # 10
I suffer from GAD that comes and goes. I told my husband when I first had symptoms, when I was diagnosed, and every time I feel like it’s coming on again. It’s not something I have to be ashamed of, and he has the right to know what’s going on with me.
Post # 11
@Swizzle: “My FI was the one that pushed me to see a doctor and go on anti-depressants. He was my rock through the whole ordeal and i was so happy to have him supporting me every step of the way.
Your DH wont judge you. You would be surprised how much more aware of your struggles he probably is.”
My DH was the same way! He could just tell what I was going through and was the one who finally convinced me to get on an anti-anxiety, anti-drepression med.
OP – you need your husband’s support here and he is the person you should be able to tell anything and everything to.
Post # 12
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Commenting from the other side. (I feel like I’ve been doing that a lot lately!) DH has GAD and he told me when he started to see a therapist. I am so happy that he told me so I could be there to support him with his struggles. I would have been disappointed (mostly in myself) if he felt he had to hide it from me.
Post # 13
I would really encourage you to let him know. If my DH told me he had been seeing a therapist for months and I had no idea, I would feel stunned and hurt that he had kept a secret from me. I hope that you’re able to find some good coping skills for your anxiety in counseling!
Post # 14
@sienna76: Nope, DH isn’t the cause of my anxiety. We’re LDR right now. So, I think my anxiety could also be because I’m not near him.
Post # 15
Uh, as someone who suffers from anxiety, I think it is crucial to your healing to tell your DH. Plus, how do you think he’d feel if he had found out that you never told him?
Even if he isn’t the cause of your anxiety, you need support and what better person than your DH? Just explain that you can manage this yourself, but at least give him the opportunity to help you and listen.
Post # 16
He is your husband. He is supposed to be your support, your rock, your hard place. He is there to help you and encourage you. Keeping things from him will not help your anxiety, as you’ll always be anxious to talk to him.
Tell him. He needs to know. You’d want to know if he had anxiety and was seeing a therapist, right?