Post # 1
Ok so my BFs cousin has ruined my surprise and I am so upset because I have been patiently waiting for a proposal. We have been together for many years and have children together. Iniatially didn’t want to be married we both love each other and our children very much and felt that it was just a piece of paper. However, in recent years we have been both been discussing marriage. I knew that he was going to propose because his bestfreind spilled the beans that he was going to this past summer that ruined it didn’ t happen. Now yet again someone spills the beans. She calls me up and asks me if I sent her a picture of a ring or if he sent me a pic of a ring. I was totally confused. Instead of her just trying to clean it up she goes on to say its a pic of an engagement ring did you send it or id he? I’m not sure what she was thinking if she was not sure who sent it why wouldn’t she just not say anything at all? She then calls me back and says to me please don’ t say anything because he will be so upset. To make matters worse when I told my friend about what happened she goes on to say how hard he has been trying to put together the perfect proposal and trying to make it really special for me. I know that he will be upset if he knows that i know should I just try to be surprised and not say anything. I am so upset that I know because I wanted it to be special too. How will I act suprised when it happens which will be very soon I think because my birthday is this week and he has been insisting on this dinner and not at his fav restaurant that he always wants to go out to.
Post # 3
@baskets: I say don’t tell him.
There is still a surprise element to the proposal. You don’t know when it will happen, what he will say, or what the ring looks like.
You just know that it’s coming and soon.
You can always tell him you “had a feeling” it was coming after the fact, but you don’t need to tell him beforehand.
It’s be a different matter if she’d told you “he’s proposing on x date and this is what the ring looks like”.
Early congratulations to you!
Post # 4
I also vote for don’t tell him.
I knew the weekend my FI was going to propose. But when it happened I was SO surprised. It didn’t happen how I thought it would (which made it so much better and exciting!) and I was seriously shocked.
Post # 5
Nope, don’t tell him! Just let him do his thing and you’ll probably be really surprised anyway! If you’re not, work on faking it. No reason to ruin his hard work because of your stupid friend. 🙂
Post # 6
I say don’t tell him either. As much as my husband tried to surprise me I have a sister who can’t keep a secret to save her life – I also found some clues on my own. I didn’t want to ruin it for anyone so i just acted like i had no idea. I was still surprised – i didn’t know where or when he was actually going to do it (we spend a weekend in Charleston) i had no idea what he was going to say or what the ring look liked. It was actually kind of nice watching him get more and more nervous. It was still really special. He still doesnt know i knew.
Post # 7
don’t tell him! all you know is that there’s a ring- i think he will be able to surprise you anyway.
Post # 8
Don’t tell him! He obviously worked really hard to keep this a surprise for you. Let him carry through with his plans.
Although the cousin might tell him that you know. So he might revise his plans to catch you off guard…
Post # 9
Not to sound like a broken record, but do NOT tell him! He is working very hard to do something special for you. Even if you know it’s coming, it will still be a great moment for you both 🙂 Also, shame on her for going directly to you and ruining some of the surprise!
Post # 10
Don’t tell him. I thought my surprise was “ruined” a week before the actual proposal. But you know what, when it happened, it was still the most beautiful moment of my life to this point. It will still be special and wonderful. It sounds like he’s trying really hard, I’d say just go with it and enjoy it.
Post # 11
You already knew he was going to propose, so really nothing has changed. You don’t know when, or how he’ll do it, so you’ll still be surprised. Don’t tell him, and don’t talk to this bone-headed friend of yours again until AFTER he proposes..
Oh… and get a manicure 😉
Post # 12
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
@MissNoodles: Good call on the mani-my nails looked like crap!
Agreed-do NOT let on that you know. I was about 90% sure when/where he was going to do it, and it was still wonderful. If he knew that I was suspicious, I think it would have taken something away from the moment for him.
Post # 13
@KatNYC2011: Thanks so much your right there is still the element of suprise. I will keep posted. I have a feeling it will be saturday at my birthday dinner. It’s all I can think about just keep smiling all day every day.
Post # 14
Thanks everyone. I agree I don’t want to spoil his planning, I will not tell him I know. I am so anxious and excited. hope I don’ t let on that i know.
Post # 15
@MissNoodles: thanks for the tip. I sure will I am going to go get one on Friday and weekly just incase I’m wrong about this weekend.
Post # 16
Thanks ladies.It’s offfcial.. I am engaged.. Yay..lol.. It was beautiful eventhough I did know about the ring. Family and friends were there and he got down on his knees and I don’t even think I heard anything he said I was just so excited. He asked if I was suprised and I couldn’ t bear to tell him no. He was just as excited and happy as I was. Let the planning begin.