Post # 1
My best friend and her husband recently seperated, as in just a few days ago. My friend made it clear that she didn’t want me saying anything to anyone as they’ve only recently seperated and of course, she has no idea what the outcome of this will be.
I’m also friends with her husband on Facebook. My friend does not have a Facebook, but I saw today that he has been airing their marital woes on some other girl’s page. A girl that his wife is aleady uncomfortable with him associating with because she has come between several of their mutal friends relationships.
Anyway, he’s been talking about how his relationship status has recently changed because his “wife just couldn’t deal with the fact that married life wasn’t some fairytale”. At first, the statues were vague, but they’ve gotten really specific over the last two days. Explaining how “she’s not the kind of wife she thinks she is” and how “he’s the only one that takes care of their son”.
I’ve been keeping my mouth shut over the last few days, but I just don’t know if I should tell her. I don’t want to be in the middle of their issues, but seeing as how I’ve witnessed countless fights between them already, I feel like I am sort of involved.
What should I do?
Post # 3
@SouthernGirl: that’s a tough one.. I wouldn’t be sure on what to do.. but just think of it this way.. if you were in her shoes would you want to know?/
Post # 4
If it were me with my bestie, I’d tell her. There’s no excuse for the husband to publicly post their problems and bash her when she has no way of defending herself. In my opinion, anyway.
ETA: And, I believe I’d want to know if it were me…
Post # 5
I know you should mind your own business in most cases, but in this case I would tell my friend. I would want to know if I was in her shoes.
Post # 6
Try to turn the situation around. If this were your separated husband airing your dirty laundry out on FB, would you want to know about it? Personally, I would. It’s no one else’s business what’s going on in my marriage and I’d be incredibly hurt if my DH started talking to someone about what’s happening. Then again, I can totally see how you would want to stay out of it. At the end of the day, if she finds out you knew he was saying all of that stuff and didn’t tell her, you might lose a friend :o(
Post # 7
I would suggest she get her own facebook page:) Just kidding, I would talk to herand just let her know that he has been venting on faacebook and you thought she know. If she wants more details she can ask or make herself an account and see.
Post # 8
If he’s posting this stuff on Facebook, then she’s going to find out eventually. I think you should tell her!
Post # 9
I would definitely tell my friend. I wouldn’t even hesitate. Because I know if that were my husband, I would defintiely want to know.
Post # 10
If he put it out there for the rest of the world to see what does he expect? I think it’s a passive aggressive tactic…he probably wants her to find out what he’s writing. Oh Facebook.
Better her hear it from her best friend than someone else. Good luck!
Post # 11
Hell yeah I would tell her! I almost always say mind your own busines but he’s airing this out for everyone he’s friends with to see so he’s just asking for it to get back to her.
Post # 12
If it were me I would rather hear it from a close friend/family member than some person who barely knows me. If it is on FB she will find out eventually.
Post # 13
Those are my thoughts. I know that I would want to know if it were me. I guess I’ve been hesitant too because I know this is already hard for her and her son has been asking where his daddy is :/ I know this isn’t easy for her and I didn’t want to add anything to it.
But my gut is telling me tell her.
Post # 14
TELL HER! if she finds out from someone else she might wonder why you didnt pipe up.
Post # 15
In most cases I’d say stay out of it. But if it were my best friend then I would be telling her. She needs to know what is going on, exspecially if her friends and family are on her facebook. I am sorry that your friend is going through this!
Post # 16
Tell her, she has a right to know, that is so rude of him!