Should I Tell My BFF?

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: Should I Tell Her?
    Yes : (30 votes)
    91 %
    No : (3 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    2546 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Share you joy, and if something that happens then you can share your sorrow.

    Post # 4
    Member
    3828 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    deactivate your FB or change the setting to prevent people posting on your wall until you can tell everyone. 

    But i would tell her in person since she is your BFF. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    802 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2015 - Backyard Forest

    If she’s your best friend… if god forbid something happened, I’m sure she would be a support to you… and it wouldn’t be a ‘hey nevermind’ it would be a ‘I need my best friend’ situation. If even she has a dumb husband, she deserves to be told in person if you can!

    Post # 7
    Hostess
    11469 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    @megz06:  I would absolutely tell your BFF, in fact I am surprised you haven’t already. She is there for emotional support regardless of what happens!

    My BFF had a miscarriage and while she told me very early I was able to be there for her through the ups and downs of moving on. She called me in tears and I knew right away something had happened. I am so thankful that I was able to be by her side to support her. It is always nice to have someone to count on.

    Post # 9
    Member
    9412 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @megz06:  If something was amiss, would you tell her about the pregnancy at all? I would only tell her if you would be comfortable talking about anything being amiss. I don’t know how to word this without sounding negative. I will use my own example.

    When I miscarried at 12 weeks, no one knew except my husband and mother. I would not have wanted to discuss the loss with my friends because I felt it was none of their business. If I had someone I would go to about the miscarriage and they’d find out either way anyway (such as my mom), then sure, tell her. If you only want to announce a pregnancy and not any potential issues,  then no, don’t. It doesn’t sound like you two are as close anymore so I’m not sure I’d choose to confide at this time.

    Post # 12
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    1787 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    We started telling our family/best friends at 9 weeks.  If the situation arose where  we were with people in person and it was hard to hide it, we just were honest about it.  Our reasoning was that if we did miscarry, we would tell these people we miscarried and look to them for support.  That was where the line was drawn with telling.  We waited until 12 week U/S to share with everyone else.

    If she would be one of the people you’d turn to if you did happen to miscarry, then I’d tell her now and share that in-person, special time with her.   

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