Should I tell my boss….

posted 4 years ago in Career
  • poll: Should I tell my boss?
    No, it's not your business : (19 votes)
    16 %
    No, pressure coworker to tell boss : (5 votes)
    4 %
    Yes, privately : (95 votes)
    79 %
    Yes, at the meeting, everyone already knows : (2 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    405 posts
    Helper bee

    @FutureDrAtkins:  Is your meeting with other people besides your boss?  You should probably tell him privately, not in front of others.  But this definitely seems unethical!

    Post # 5
    2376 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    I would tell your boss privately even if your whole group knows about it. 

    Post # 6
    1615 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Seconding the advice to tell your boss privately. Definitely tell him or her, though–this sounds shady as heck to me.

    Post # 8
    661 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012


    Isn’t your coworker going to know that you told the boss?

    In that case I would probably tell the coworker that I’m planning on taking with the boss about it at my next meeting with them (in private) because you feel uncomfortable knowing that this arrangement is happening in the event that he doesn’t like it (just explain how you’re feeling). Then give him a chance to actually talk to the boss about it himself, since he would now know that you’re planning on doing it anyways… maybe this will give him a kick in the pants?

    Perhaps he can talk to the boss about it then? He really should have talked to the boss about it in the first place. I would have been a good $ saving idea but now it ends up looking awkward and kinda like stealing..

    If you think your coworker has had enough chances to speak up and/or they won’t even know it was you who told anyways then I would just tell them in private. No one else needs to be involved in the conversation. 

    Post # 10
    796 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @FutureDrAtkins:  i am a big believer that if you have your boss’s back they wll have your back.

    Post # 11
    2843 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @FutureDrAtkins:  I guess what I don’t get is- what is the “arrangement” your co-worker has going on?  I read your entire original post, so I don’t know if I am missing something?

    It seems like a very one-sided “arrangement” from what I understand.  If the woman was coming in and using a part of the heart that would otherwise go to waste because your lab simply doesn’t use it- I don’t know if I’d see a problem.  Business wise, I’m sure a lot of people would- but I’m the type of person who says “if we NEED to get the hearts no matter, and I will throw X-part into the garbage, who cared if someone takes it?”  On the otherhand, you said co-worker is ordering extra hearts just for his friend- THAT isn’t OK.

    Post # 13
    2843 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @FutureDrAtkins:  If the “arrangement” wasn’t causing any financial issue or havoc (sounds like maybe she shouldn’t have gotten into the sterile hearts?)- then I would just let it be.  But apparently she has access to your lab?  Which- granted- I don’t know how things works where you are (and I’ve never worked in any lab!)- but that doesn’t sound right.  Your co-worker sounds like he could use a tune-up.  While I’m not one for snitches, sometimes you don’t have a choice.  If I were you, I would talk to your boss.  Just make sure you’re careful with how you approach the subject.  If co-worker truly believes he isn’t doing anything wrong, he shouldn’t be worried.  It’s only people who are afraid to get caught who should be worried!

    Post # 14
    2843 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @FutureDrAtkins:  Also- I guess I am curious- is your co-worker hoping this arrangement leads to a date/hook-up….?  I mean, why would you have such one-sided arrangment in a situation like this?

    Post # 15
    8908 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I would tell him privately.  Another lab should not be using your materials or supplies without permission and certain rules being followed I would think.  If that parts she is using would just go to waste I would think maybe they could set up an official arrangement for giving them to another lab.  But I would want it to be official.  I imagine you (your lab group) could get in trouble for this as well if anyone higher up were to hear about it.  Animal subjects have certain rules and restrictions and I would imagine just giving parts to another lab (no idea on their standards/rules) could be dangerous to your group.  That’s why I would tell.

    Post # 16
    304 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    @FutureDrAtkins:  if you tell on him, I’m sure he’s going to get fired 🙁 maybe he doesn’t realize this. I think the best thing to do would be to tell him to STOP, the ‘arrangement’ is over. It was unacceptable to begin with. They need to get the head boss’s permission, or the woman is not allowed in the lab, period.

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