Post # 1
Hi Hive! I had an idea that I just wanted to get some feedback on. Here’s the situation. Our (my Fiance and I) best couple friends are getting married in April (after being together 9 years! yay!) in Cuba. For a couple of reasons we sadly won’t be able to go (mostly it’s because Fiance is an accountant and can’t get time off during “tax season” ugh). They live in the same city as us, but are from my hometown.
She will not be having a shower in our city (if at all!), so I was thinking I might throw her one for the few girlfriends she has here.
Is this a good idea? Even though I am not in the wedding party and not going to the wedding?
Post # 3
I think it is a great idea, are there other people in town that are going to the wedding? Maybe b/c of the travel expenses on the other guests, you might not want to call it a “shower”. I know with Destination Wedding people/guest can get upset if there are too many events that you have to purchase gifts for. But a little Get Together would be a great idea!
Post # 4
I think it is a very nice gesture & so sweet of you! Here’s my suggestion – just take care not to step on anyone’s toes. Does she have a bridal party? If so, I would maybe run the idea past them – you mentioned she might not have a shower at all. Is this because she doesn’t have a bridal party? Or could it be that she doesn’t want a shower?
Once you feel out those issues, go for it. Perhaps you can make it more informal? Is she close with the girlfriends in your city? Or are you by far her closest friend in the area? If she’s close with the other girls, maybe see if any of them would like to co-host a casual get together with you. Another option would be to throw the couple a co-ed type of shower. This is especially nice if there are other locals in the same boat as you who will miss the festivities.
Your friend is lucky to have someone like you who is thinking of her! 🙂
Post # 5
I think it’s a great idea. No reason why you couldn’t do a shower and I’m sure she would really appreciate it!
Post # 6
I’m with arizonaI bet she’d love it! And you don’t have to call it a “shower” if you think you’ll be stepping on people’s toes. You can have your own “hooray you’re getting married” party with a bunch of other couples making it less of a traditional “bridal shower” feeling.
I bet you’re not the only ones who can’t afford to go and it’ll give other friends an opportunity to honor the couple too.
Post # 7
Hehehe. 🙂 I think a mini-shower is called a “sprinkle.”
Post # 8
@jesandshan – I think a few will be going to the wedding, and a few will not
@Miss Meepsie – She does have a bridal party but none of them are in town and I don’t know/haven’t met any of them :-S The reason I think she’s not having a shower is that I know she’s not having one here, and she’s not going home at any point between now in the wedding. Thanks for your tips, I wouldn’t want to step on anyone’s toes!!
@Mrs. Spring – Oh my gosh that is so cute! That’s exactly what I will call it!
Post # 9
@arizonabride & dancy – thanks!!!!
Post # 10
I think its so sweet of you to want to throw a party for her! As a Destination Wedding bride she might be missing out on some of these pre-wedding parties and this is a great way to ensure she both gets a Shower AND that guests from the area unable to make it to the Destination Wedding (or unable to afford to make it) get a chance to celebrate with her!
Post # 11
I think an extra shower sounds like a really great idea! How fun would that be 🙂
Post # 12
Aww that’s so sweet! You should definately do it!
Post # 13
Please do it! Nobody threw a shower for me and I have friends who didn’t have on either and we all feel kind of bummed about it. It’s super sweet of you to do it.
Post # 14
@Ottawa – definitely do it then! She will be so happy! And the nice thing is that since it seems like it will just be local friends, you can really have fun with the event theme/style/location. 🙂 The bride is lucky to have such an awesome friend!
@Mrs. Spring – a sprinkle! Hahaha! That’s so fantastic!
Post # 15
Thank you everyone for the positive feedback 🙂 I brought the idea up with her last night and she seemed very excited! Now I just need to plan and get some contact info for her girlfriends!! She’s not registering, so I am not sure what to tell people about gifts, do I just say they aren’t necessary?
Post # 16
@Mrs. Spring – that is adorable!
@Ottowa – Awesome that you’re doing this for her! My SIL’s work friends had a brunch for her outside of work so that they could all spend some time with her and have fun. They all bought her some classy nighties :o) Might be a cute idea if you all wanted to go in together and get her a few nice things for the honeymoon if you know what I mean!