Should I trash my dress?

posted 2 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
813 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

why not donate it to a charity and let someone else love it too?  There are charities that take gowns that are in good condition and less than 5 years old.  

Post # 3
1062 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

chanelficker:  I can’t imagine trashing a wedding dress, especially spending so much on it. I’ve seen some photos that looked pretty fun, but in all honesty, I would just buy a cheap white dress and trash that for pictures (if I went with that route). 

Post # 4
1500 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016

Personally, I don’t understand the appeal. It seems like an act of defiance…but an act of defiance against who? Did someone FORCE the bride to spend hundreds on her dress? These all look like very expensive photoshoots as well, was someone forcing her to shell out the money for the photography too? Is that who she’s defying, this whole wedding industry that made her do all these things she clearly didn’t want instead of…choosing an inexpensive dress and cheap photography?

So basically, it’s not for me. I don’t understand it. Some brides obviously do, more power to them and it’s their dress so they can do whatever they like with it. Personally, if I didn’t want to keep my dress anymore, I’d rather donate it or sell it for cheap so someone else could have a chance to feel beautiful on their wedding day too.

Post # 5
157 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

chanelficker:  I’m not personally “for” this for my future engaged self, but I did look at those photos. And there are a few brides on fire in there, LOL…that’s hilarious. I think it’s totally up to you.

Post # 6
5767 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I really hate this trend. It seems so over-the-top, wasteful, and attention-seeking. It’s a fad, and I hope a passing fad. I can’t imagine 20 years from now anyone being all that jazzed to dig out the photos of them in their wedding dress covered in mud or climbing up a tree or what-not.

If you don’t know what to do with your dress post-wedding, donate it.

Post # 7
6631 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I echo donate the dress, there are many brides out there would would love to have a wedding dress but can’t afford one.  To me TTD is a waste of money

Post # 8
6525 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013


chanelficker:  its not for everyone. 

I could not imagine doing that to my gown! what a waste. 

The beautiful beadwork on my dress, I couldn’t

I guess some people feel they will never wear it again so why not? Or maybe they didn’t pay that much for it, so they don’t care? 

But my dress was $2K and I plan to dye it and wear it if my future daughter doesn’t want to wear it. 

Post # 9
237 posts
Helper bee

I took a look of those photos… I guess it depends.  The water related ones are beautiful and to me, they look more like a work of art for those who enjoy artistic photos and creativity.  I don’t believe those dresses are actually totally destroyed unless they got ripped in the process.  Those that are totally destroying the dress beyond repair with paint, fire, etc… well the “trash” part of the look to me is the intent that is being reflected in my opinion.  That is not a side I would want to represent myself with.  But if the ambiance and shoot done in a beautiful, romantic and graceful way… then I think this could be fun if you have time and money to burn.

Post # 10
129 posts
Blushing bee

I’m going to! My opinion is that most people put their dress in a preservation box and keep it in the closet, rarely ever pulling it out to look at it. Styles change so I doubt if I have a future daughter she’ll want to wear it. We are going to play paintball or do a color run (something super colorful). Then someone gave me an idea that if I have it cleaned afterward I can have the fabric turned into a dedication dress if I have a baby girl. 

My reasoning for the ttd is because I will pull the photos out a lot and look at them and have great memories. A dress in the closet in a box does nothing for me but take up space.

Post # 11
380 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: Cottage on the Creek

I think the pictures are GORGEOUS. my friend did it (in the ocean) then got her dress dry cleaned and sold it. It was totally fine. Of course, different “trashings” might actually ruin the dress but, depends on what you do. 

Post # 12
314 posts
Helper bee

I would never “trash” such an expensive dress- there are so many girls who can’t afford dresses, why not sell it ebay or craigslist?

Post # 13
1464 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I’m also against these photoshoots.  I sew, and wedding dresses are made of yards and yards of beautiful fabric.  If you don’t plan to keep your dress, it could be sold, donated, or at the very least cut apart and used for something else.  

Besides, do we really need another photo shoot?  There’s the engagement photos, wedding photos, bridal photos, etc.  How many photos are you really going to look at 5, 10, 20 years from now?

Post # 14
3644 posts
Sugar bee

Iv’e read where brides do this, but use a simpler, thrift shop gown, instead of the one they may have just paid thousands for. My daughters’ gowns were so heavy, I’d think they’d risk drowning, if they used them in water photos.

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