Post # 1
Hi bees! Next week marks two months since my four year relationship ended. I am doing awesome, however I did have to move and I lost pretty much all my local friends as they were his friends first. I have a few close work friends, but they are all married and extremly busy outside of work. I am not exactly lonely (I’m not a girl that needs to be validated by a relationship), but I would like to date again and meet some new people. It seems harder and harder to meet guys who aren’t married as I am now thirty. This was so much easier when I was last single! Should I try internet dating? My sister wants to make me a profile over thanksgiving for her area as I am trying to find a job closer to my family. I am now two hours away but visit twice a month or so. Should I do this? Should I wait? i feel like two months isn’t a long time single, but like I said, I’m not on a mission to meet the love of my life in a month or anything like that.
Post # 3
@Em0038: Go for it! What can it hurt to just try it? It might be fun to go on a few dates just to get back in the game. I met my husband on Match, so it does work. At the very least, you could meet a few local people you wouldn’t have met otherwise.
Post # 4
@Em0038: I say go for it! I know a few people that met their SO’s online. If nothing else, it will get you back out and meeting new people 🙂
Post # 5
Online dating is a great way to meet new people. I have had really positive experiences with it. However, you should only begin dating when you feel ready to. Whether you meet someone online or in person, you want to make sure the timing is right for you. You can always just make a profile and see what messages come your way. If you aren’t ready to meet or talk, it’s up to you. 🙂
Post # 6
I would definitely give it a try. A few years ago, I made a profile on OkCupid to find some new people in my area to talk to, and ended up meeting my FI through it. I met a lot of nice people with similar interests to mine, and I really enjoyed my time using it.
Post # 7
@Em0038: I vote yes! My bestfriend & her boyfriend of 5 years broke up this summer.. she’s a very outgoing, social person who has always had guys swoon after her.. well after a few months no luck meeting any *decent* guys she decided to try internet dating. She met a few nice guys, went on a couple so-so dates.. but low and behold, she met the guy who she thinks is “the one.” She is so happy she tried it out, and she said it’s a great ego boost, having some many people interesred in you. If I were single & sick of the bar scene I would definitely give it try, it can’t hurt!
Post # 8
Sure why not! I met my husband on eHarmony! And before I met him, I went on a few dates with a couple of really great guys and had a great time with them. We were well matched just not enough chemistry to have a relationship.
Post # 9
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
There is a crazy thread here that proves it can work!
Also, for meeting friends, try Meetup.
Post # 10
@Em0038: Why not! Two years ago, I was just coming out of a shorter relationship, but was left with some pretty hefty emotional scars. I started a profile online to get out and meet more people (and experience more places in the city) and had no intention of meeting anyone long-term. I had some really fun dates and really terrible dates (that I could probably write a book about someday) and it helped remind me that I could go out with people and have fun NOT as part of a relationship. For me, I was tired of crying at home and feeling bummed that I had nothing to do on Friday nights.
Internet dating gave me an opportunity to meet people outside of my usual network of friends and acquaintances. It’s all about having the right attitude–it can totally be a great experience. I wasn’t looking for a long term relationship, just out to mix things up, and wound up going on a date with a guy… who I’ve now been with for almost 2.5 years.
Do whatever you feel comfortable with. I feel like two months isn’t a long time single. It depends on what’s right for you! If you go out on a couple dates and realize you’re not ready, deactivate the profile and focus more on what you need individually. If you like it and are having fun, who’s to say two months isn’t long enough for you to start your healing process?
Post # 11
@Em0038: One of my favorite married couples met online! I say go for it, just be safe 🙂
Post # 12
Why not? I met DH on eHarmony!
Post # 13
I didn’t find my FI on one, but it did get me used to being on dates and helped me figure out what was important and what was something I could live with. It was fun meeting people, but don’t put too much pressure to find a husband on a website immediately. What’s that saying…you have to kiss a lot of frogs? Kiss away!
Post # 14
Definitely! I met FI on OKCupid!
Post # 15
- Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand
It can’t hurt to give it a try and make a profile. Your gut instinct when you start receiving messages, etc will let you know if you’re ready to start dating again 🙂
Post # 16
@Em0038: It’s a great way to dip your toe in the water and get as involved as you want–just online chats or meeting in person–at your own pace. I was overcoming an illness that had kept me away from a job, friends and any social life when I joined OKCupid. I was in no way ready for anything serious since I was just picking up the pieces of my shattered life. Lo and behold, 1 month after joining I saw this really cute boy’s profile, a month later we went on a date, a month after that we were seriously dating and 2 years (almost exactly) from the day I signed up, we got married.
Have fun with it and dont take it too seriously. My friend tried it and put too much stock in it and almost had a nervous breakdown when she met a guy and SHOCK he was much older than the picture he posted online. On OKCupid, you can answer lots of questions, take fun quizes, join the forums (but many of the people on there can be quite snarky).
Read up on how to create a good profile and take a look at your competition (meaning look at other women’s profiles. That joke that you think is hilarious isnt so funny when you see it on 10 other profiles). As a female, Make sure your profile name references something about your physical body like LeggyLatte or PiercingBluEyes.
Good Luck and Have fun!