(Closed) Should I try to convince FI?

posted 8 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
18645 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Why would you have to convince your FI?  Because of the money that has already been spent or does he actually want a big wedding?  I think it sounds great for the two of you to save some money for the future move, as long as a small wedding is what you want.

Post # 4
2588 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

With the down payment, most venues will give a refund if you cancel, say, six months to a year in advance. Talk to the event coordinator and see if that’s the case–you wouldn’t have to eat the cost.

I was having similar thoughts a while ago but FH ultimately convinced me that hey–you only get one real wedding (well, unless you’re on to second, third, fourth marriages, etc.) so why not have a big celebration? It doesn’t have to be expensive at all (depending on where you are in IL, of course–Chicago area will be more expensive than smaller cities).

Post # 6
3671 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

We recently changed to this.  We lost our deposits but even with the loss the wedding is much cheaper.  We’re inviting 30 people I believe and we expect about 20.  We’re just having a small ceremony with a restaurant dinner reception and we’re happier about it.  We’re going to Charleston though since it’s only an hour and a half from where we live and we’re much happier.  We want to make sure the most important people are there but not to overspend to the point where it’s too stressful to think about.

Post # 7
1765 posts
Buzzing bee


Here are some things to think about: What are each of your priorities?  There are sooo many things you can choose, or not choose to do, with your wedding!  You already have a very inexpensive ceremony.  You could choose to cut the amount of people at the venue you already have. You could choose to not do a full sit-down meal, you could choose to do an appetizer reception, a punch and cake reception, or a dessert reception to cut costs.  How much will it cost to get to Las Vegas?  And for a place to stay? Will you have some kind of reception there? How much would that cost? Will everyone that you want with you to attend be able to afford it, or be healthy enough to travel?  Will you miss having some people there with you, after all is said and done?  🙂

Post # 8
1872 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I would say make your best case for Vegas with your fiance, but don’t be surprised if he doesn’t go for it completely–he probably has his vision for the day too. But surely there is a happy medium for your wallet. Maybe it’s a small ceremony and then a paper-plate BBQ bash later on for your friends. Or maybe you can cut back on things to help save costs. We’re skipping: centerpieces, flowers, favors, open bar, videography, shoes & veil & garter, professional hair & make-up (although I am getting my regular hairdresser and team to teach me ahead of time), a fancy photography album, cake, dancing, reply-cards (done via email or phone), welcome bags, ceremony music, calligraphy, fancy transportation, gifts for each-other, ceremony decorations…Is it a lot to skip? Sure. But I think that we can still have a great event–AND have a honeymoon afterwards, which was the reason for cutting all that stuff in the first place.

Bottom line is, there’s a lot of “wiggle room” when it comes to planning a wedding–set your budget first and then figure out what three things you want the bulk of that money to buy.

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