Post # 1
The further along we get in planning, and the more down payments we are going to have to put on things I can’t stop thinking about how much I really want to go to Vegas and get married. We could just invite some close friends and family and get hitched and have a grand old time.
The problem is, convincing Fiance. I know we put a $1K downpayment on our venue and that we would have to count as a loss. And a $100 downpayment on the ceremony site. But if that’s it then we’ve still saved ourselves a crap ton of money–something that we’ll really need if we decide we want to do the moving we’ve been planning for so long.
I’m not saying I don’t want my family there with me to celebrate the biggest moment in our lives. But the thought of all the money that we will be spending to make it happen just makes my stomach churn. Now I know why so many people go to the JOP.
Any thoughts? Am I being crazy? Any tips on how to convince my Fiance to just up and go to Vegas to tie the knot?
ETA: Food, venue, centerpieces, room for the night will be around $4k. And eloping seems extremely adventurous–just like us!!
Post # 3
Why would you have to convince your FI? Because of the money that has already been spent or does he actually want a big wedding? I think it sounds great for the two of you to save some money for the future move, as long as a small wedding is what you want.
Post # 4
With the down payment, most venues will give a refund if you cancel, say, six months to a year in advance. Talk to the event coordinator and see if that’s the case–you wouldn’t have to eat the cost.
I was having similar thoughts a while ago but FH ultimately convinced me that hey–you only get one real wedding (well, unless you’re on to second, third, fourth marriages, etc.) so why not have a big celebration? It doesn’t have to be expensive at all (depending on where you are in IL, of course–Chicago area will be more expensive than smaller cities).
Post # 5
Well I would just have to convince him because I keep mentioning the idea of eloping to him and he isn’t too thrilled about it. I think he’s worried that it’ll ruin the romantic idea of the whole ceremony but we aren’t having a large one in the first place. We are only having around 75-100 people MAX (I’m sure a lot less once all the RSVP are in).
He wants to save money too so maybe if mention this aspect to him it’ll convince him. I mean, we both have large familys so inviting only like a MAX of 10-20 people seems so much easier. No large catering bill. Just me, him, our love, and our commitment.
Post # 6
We recently changed to this. We lost our deposits but even with the loss the wedding is much cheaper. We’re inviting 30 people I believe and we expect about 20. We’re just having a small ceremony with a restaurant dinner reception and we’re happier about it. We’re going to Charleston though since it’s only an hour and a half from where we live and we’re much happier. We want to make sure the most important people are there but not to overspend to the point where it’s too stressful to think about.
Post # 7
Here are some things to think about: What are each of your priorities? There are sooo many things you can choose, or not choose to do, with your wedding! You already have a very inexpensive ceremony. You could choose to cut the amount of people at the venue you already have. You could choose to not do a full sit-down meal, you could choose to do an appetizer reception, a punch and cake reception, or a dessert reception to cut costs. How much will it cost to get to Las Vegas? And for a place to stay? Will you have some kind of reception there? How much would that cost? Will everyone that you want with you to attend be able to afford it, or be healthy enough to travel? Will you miss having some people there with you, after all is said and done? 🙂
Post # 8
I would say make your best case for Vegas with your fiance, but don’t be surprised if he doesn’t go for it completely–he probably has his vision for the day too. But surely there is a happy medium for your wallet. Maybe it’s a small ceremony and then a paper-plate BBQ bash later on for your friends. Or maybe you can cut back on things to help save costs. We’re skipping: centerpieces, flowers, favors, open bar, videography, shoes & veil & garter, professional hair & make-up (although I am getting my regular hairdresser and team to teach me ahead of time), a fancy photography album, cake, dancing, reply-cards (done via email or phone), welcome bags, ceremony music, calligraphy, fancy transportation, gifts for each-other, ceremony decorations…Is it a lot to skip? Sure. But I think that we can still have a great event–AND have a honeymoon afterwards, which was the reason for cutting all that stuff in the first place.
Bottom line is, there’s a lot of “wiggle room” when it comes to planning a wedding–set your budget first and then figure out what three things you want the bulk of that money to buy.