(Closed) Should I wear my wedding dress to parties/receptions post-wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: To wear or not to wear my wedding dress to subsequent receptions?
    No--September and October are too far away from a July wedding date so it isn't appropriate. : (0 votes)
    No--just wear a different, less formal white dress. : (36 votes)
    39 %
    Yes, it is appropriate. I've seen it done or I have done it! : (19 votes)
    20 %
    Sure, if you want to. Who cares what other people think? : (38 votes)
    41 %
  • Post # 3
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    216 posts
    Helper bee

    Personally, I wouldn’t because I would feel a little weird about it. Especially if it’s a formal gown. The dress is meant to be worn for the marriage ceremony…which only happens once.

    I had friend that eloped and then she had a “wedding” again almost 6 months later with a formal gown, “first dance”, etc. We supported her–but it was all a bit strange from our perspective. Kind of like the reception was an afterthought.

    I think your situation is different–but I wouldn’t recreate the whole first wedding for the second party. You only “really” techinally have one and you can still wear a white dress or informal white gown…but I wouldn’t personally wear the dress again and especially not if you are going to show your guests a video of the wedding in which you are wearing the same gown anyway.

    I think it would be more fun to pick out a second less formal dress anyway. I am planning on doing something like that for a post-wedding party.

    Post # 4
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    14784 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Can the dress be altered into a cocktail dress?

    Post # 5
    Member
    722 posts
    Busy bee

    I am! We are having a wedding-moon and then an at home reception 2 months later. I am definitely wearing my dress for both. I love it and it seems like a waste not to. I had a friend do the same thing and nobody thought it was odd. Everyone was excited to get to see her dress.

    Post # 7
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    1046 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I think it’s kind of weird to wear your wedding dress on a day that isn’t your wedding. However, I don’t think that it matters–do what makes you happy. Personally, I’d use it as an excuse to get a dress that is white and bridal but perhaps less formal and more fun than the original dress.

    Post # 8
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    3316 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Our ceremony and reception were three days apart.  We wore our wedding dresses both times.  First, we wanted as much as possible to let our reception guests feel part of the ceremony–even though it was too far away for them to attend.  Second, wedding dress prices are high enough that we certainly wanted to use them more than once if possible.  Our friends were far too busy celebrating with us to criticize our dress choices.

    Post # 9
    Member
    348 posts
    Helper bee

    We had a reception in England two months later.  I wore my dress again because my husband’s aunts really wanted to see me in it, and I figured there was no reason not to.  People really appreciated it, I think – made them feel better about not having been able to make the original ceremony.

    Post # 10
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    2775 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I voted “do what you want,” though personally I’d opt for a less formal white dress.  I think that part of what makes a wedding dress so special is that it’s worn on one day only – the wedding day.  I’d just feel weird dressing up like a bride months into my marriage.

    Post # 11
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    14186 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    If you’re having a cocktail party, I’d opt for a smokin’ cocktail dress! But that’s just me =]. I can totally see the appeal to wearing your wedding dress again

    Post # 12
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    6573 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    you’re still going to be the bride, so why not wear a pretty dress?

    Post # 13
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    6598 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I would wear it again – I HATE that I can only wear my dress one day! If I had other opportunities I would rock that dress!

    As a guest I would also like to see the bride in her dress – that is one my favourite parts of weddings!

    Post # 14
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    13102 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I think you should get a less formal, more cocktail appropriate white dress.  So then you’re still in white (like a bride) but aren’t going to stick out in a dress that’s way, way more formal than anyone else will be.

    Plus, as others have said, part of the specialness of a (formal) wedding gown is that you wear it on the day you’re offically married and on that day only!

    Post # 15
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    3219 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    We are having a weddingmoon and a home town reception almost a month after i have a 2nd and more formal dress for the reception. Do what makes you happy!

    Post # 16
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    916 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2010 - Al Cielo / La Laguna

    We are having a at home reception after our destination wedding and at first I wasn’t going to wear my dress.  Then I got so many guests telling me that they hoped I would so they could see it I decided to wear it.  

    As long as your dress matches the formality of the party and you don’t stick out like a sore thumb you should totally wear it!

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