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I think if you never wore it for an actual wedding, it's fine.
P.S. There's a great article I read a while back on Jezebel.com about this. I can't search for it at work, but one of their writers went through something similar and kept and wore her previously-bought dress.
I think it's fine as long as he doesn't mind.
Here's another post that may be helpful
It sounds like you still love the dress and you would be happy and comfortable wearing it - I don't see why not! It might be different if you'd worn it at your previous wedding but owning it from a previous engagement sounds ok to me.
However if you DON'T love it or if you would be happier with something brand new to you, maybe look around and see if there's a dress out there in your budget that would work for you. Even pre-owned dresses or sample sales - there's so many options if that's something you want to consider!
The dress is beautiful - I'm sure it would be gorgeous for your wedding!
Thanks ladies!
I dooo love this dress. I know I would feel fine in it, I just don't know what other people will think. Or when his mom asks me to go dress shopping. But I guess I will answer those questions when they come.
And on the bright side: The previous engagment made me realize that I want to become a wedding planner. :)
I think if you still love it, there's no reason not to wear it!
I had a good friend who was in the same situation as you. She was engaged to a guy who was all wrong for her, but still went out and spent about $6k on a Melissa Sweet dress that was custom made for her. Seriously, she met with Melissa Sweet, told her what she wanted from several different dresses and she got her dream dress.
A few years later, after the engagement was broken off, she met a great guy and married him in her dream dress. She looked radiant, and he didn't mind one bit!
Missprizzle I'm in the same boat as you. I was engaged 6 years ago and bought my gorgeous Maggie dress. I tried several times to sell it on Ebay and Craigs' list. I finally decided that I'm wearing the dress. I still love the dress it still fits and the FI has no problem with it! Besides I'd never get my 1500k back on the dress and that's 1500k I can spend somewhere else on the wedding.
Go for it!
Here's a pic of my dress. It is very simillar to yours. It is the Maggie Celeste.
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I think you should wear it - its not like you wore it to your other wedding and want to wear it again. Is your FI ok with it? You said yourself you were more in love with the planning so I think the dress doesnt really reflect your ex-fiancee and what you wouldve worn for him.
As long as you and your FI are okay with it, no one else needs to know the circumstances of how you bought it - it's not like you've already worn it! If you love it and it will make you happy you should definitely wear it! Do not worry about what other people think, it's none of their business!
To answer your question about what to say when people ask about dressing shopping just be honest and say "I've already found my dress and I'm excited for everyone to see it soon!". That's what I told my Fi's mom when she asked if I already had my dress. We were only engaged for about a month when she asked. But we've been together for 3 1/2 years so I'm sure she figured it was something I'd been looking at for awhile now.
Hmm.. I mean, if you can't sell it, it would certainly be the most economical thing to do. However, I personally would get a new dress for the "new wedding" because I'd have too many negative connotations/thoughts of the ex attached to the dress. If you don't have any negative feelings towards the dress/would-be-wedding, I don't see why not!
I say wear it! Especially if your FI has no problem with it.
Let's face it, brides buy the dress that makes THEM happy. It's really one of the few things in the wedding that truly is just for the bride. It's not like you picked out that dress because you thought your old FI would like it, right?
It's beautiful, and I'm sure you're stunning in it.
I love Vintage2010's answer!
And yeah, if you want to wear the dress and FI is ok with it, wear the dress. Tell him that's more money for the honeymoon... and lingerie underneath the dress! lol.
I would say that if it's been several years since you bought this you might want to go dress shopping just to see if there is anything new that you love more. If not, I wouldn't hesitate to wear this one. That way you'll know for sure that it's "the one".
I'm glad you wrote this....I'm in the same situation. Ultimately I'd love to buy a new dress but why spend the money when I have a dress I love. Plus my mother bought it and she's been waiting years for me to wear it. My FI is fine with it but he told his sister and she thinks it "horrible" that I'm going to wear a dress I bought for another wedding. I'm thinking of changing the neckline to make it 'our' dress but don't really want to.
Your dress is pretty...I vote wear it!!!
It sounds like I'm the minority here, but you asked for input and here's what I think. I think it wouldn't be right to wear the dress purchased under a different engagement. I'm so happy for you you've finally find your perfect FH though! But you plan a wedding (dress included) that is custom made to reflect your relationship. Every decision you make you make with you and your FI in mind. I just think this would almost bring "negative energy". You planned to wear this dress with another person, I think you should choose a different dress that reflects where you are today and the relationship with your FI and a dress that will wow him! This is a gorgeous dress, but you picked it out to wow your previous FI. You imagined I'm sure him seeing you for the first time in that gown. I guess I'm just overly sentimental and would need to cut all ties and memories and not drag them into your wedding with the man of your dreams! I don't mean to offend by my post, but just wanted to put my thoughts in the ring since you had asked.
I agree with Vintage too! Just tell them you found your dress & you have it. If your FMIL REALLY wants to take you dress shopping, just go anyways if you REALLY have to. Nothing wrong with that (just don't fall in love with another dress!)
i'm not easily spooked (except by blowing money when you don't need to) and if there are no hard feelings w/ the dress from you, your fam, or FH, i'd totally wear it. Money doesn't grow on trees, and whoever is paying for this wedding will appreciate not getting one more unnecessary bill.
I think you should wear it! I mean, as long as you didn't wear it already. It will be kind of symbolic, like you finally found someone worthy of your dream dress. If I were you I'd try on some other dresses just to be sure though, it won't hurt.
I think it all depends on how you feel about it. If you can put aside the old memories, I say go for it!
I think you should go for it as long as your FI has no problem with it! It's a beautiful dress and you still love it so I think it's absolutely fine to wear it. And BTW, great name, I absolutely LOVE pizzelles!
Normally I'd feel weird about this, but it sounds like you bought this dress for your "dream" wedding, and it really is not attached to your ex in any other way (especially emotionally).. If you still love the dress, and he has no problem with it, either, then I suppose there is nothing wrong with you wearing your dream dress to get married to your dream man.
GL!
I say go for it!
My neibhors fiancee's parents owned a bridal shop that they sold when she was a teenager. They allowed their daughters to pick out a wedding dress before they sold it. Now she is getting married next year in that dress! It's similar in your situation as she had the dress years before the guy (just not for a previous engagement)...I don't see anything wrong with wearing the dress if it was never used and that you love it still makes it all the better!!
Definitely wear it!! There's nothing wrong with that as long as you still love it and get 'that feeling' when you put it on!
@chachacha- Obviously, I love pizzelles too! They are fun making and are so pretty for a cookie ;)
@vintage 2010- your dress is amazing and thank you for your input (especially) since you went though the same thing!
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So, when I was a teenager I got proposed to and I went diving into planning my wedding. I was much more into the wedding than I was into him. I planned everything and I got this beautiful dress. I really love it... and over the years I have tried to sell it on numerous occasions and no one wants it!
I find myself engaged (again) to the my soul mate, he knows about my previous engagement and having planned everything including the dress.
I just don't know if it would be kosher to wear it... or what!?
Has anyone else done this?
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