Post # 1
I will only be writing thank you cards for those who gave a gift, however, I’m wondering what I should do in this case.
We invited two guys, brothers, who both still live at home with their parents. (They are both over 18, I don’t think they’re that close with each other though) We received a card and monetary gift signed by only one of the brothers. I know them equally well, but this brother is a bit more on the polite side, whereas the other has a more so “Free booze? I’m there” sorta mentality. So i’m not surprised that the gift was only from one of them.
I will write a thank you note to brother 1, thanking him for the gift and for the heartfelt letter he included with the card.
I’m wondering, should I write a thank you to the other brother for coming? I would just thank him for coming and sharing our special day with us and that it was great to see him and we hoped he had a good time.
It feels weird thanking only one of them and not the other when they live together. Is that okay?
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley
I would only write to brother #1.
Post # 4
You don’t thank someone for coming, only for gifts. Just write to Brother 1.
Post # 5
I don’t know what the official rules of etiquette are, but I would (and will myself) thank all guests for attending with a card or note. You’re grateful that your guests attended, and gifts are optional, so I think all attendees should get a formal thank you. I don’t buy the opinion that the reception itself is a “thank you”—it is a party that you’re hosting to mark a major occasion.
Post # 6
If the card wasa signed by both, both should be thanked. It’s for you to judge who is more likely to have contributed.
Post # 7
@andielovesj: The card was not signed by both, only one of them.
Post # 8
Hmmm if they didn’t live together, I wouldn’t thank brother 2. But since they do it might be awkward if only one of them receives a thank you.
Post # 9
If the card was only signed by 1, I would just write the thank you to him.