Should I write him a thank you as well?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

I would only write to brother #1. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

You don’t thank someone for coming, only for gifts. Just write to Brother 1.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I don’t know what the official rules of etiquette are, but I would (and will myself) thank all guests for attending with a card or note. You’re grateful that your guests attended, and gifts are optional, so I think all attendees should get a formal thank you. I don’t buy the opinion that the reception itself is a “thank you”—it is a party that you’re hosting to mark a major occasion.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

If the card wasa signed by both, both should be thanked. It’s for you to judge who is more likely to have contributed.

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

Hmmm if they didn’t live together, I wouldn’t thank brother 2. But since they do it might be awkward if only one of them receives a thank you.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

If the card was only signed by 1, I would just write the thank you to him. 

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