Post # 1
Does it make a difference if he is your boyfriend, fiance, or husband? What if it’s a one-night stand?
Although this is a sensitive subject, it is worthy of discussion. Not everyone shares the same viewpoint and that IS okay. Please be respectful.
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
If you’re in a relationship, yes. Not that you have to do what he “says”, obviously.
One night stand… meh.
Post # 4
In MY opinion if i was in a commited relationship, a partnership, he should have a say.
at the beginning of my relationship with now Dh, when we began being sexually active and using birth control we had the conversation that if we got pregnant at thatt ime we would abort. But then there came a time that we talked about how we had hit that point that if we got pregnant we would keep it.
for me, when i became sexually active it meant there was a chance of pregnancy, and i had a game plan for that consequence since the beginning.
but i also decided i would only be sexually active in committed relationships, and it turned out i married my first 🙂
Post # 5
One night stand- no
boyfriend, FI, DH yes I believe they have a say. It is a huge decision
Post # 6
My friend’s boyfriend insisted she keep a pregnancy and she did, since her family insisted they’d help and her boyfriend wanted it etc. Plus she was 26 and felt weird aborting, even though she didn’t feel ready to be a mom.
Fast forward to now, 19 montys later. The boyfriend left while she was pregnant, her family has barely helped at all, and she’s a stressed single mom. She is on anti depressants and is in therapy. She wishes she had gone with her gut instinct and hadn’t had a baby when she wasn’t ready.
Post # 7
This is always a tough and contraversial subject. Its hard for it to be made equal as pregnancy isnt equal…the woman has to carry the baby and go through childbirth, risking various numbers of complications and pain etc and so forth. Whereas biologically the man takes a back seat
So i also come to this conclusion, should the woman take his opinion into account….yes. should a man be able to compel a woman to have an abortion or keep the baby, no
Its an awful situation when a man wants a baby and the woman doesnt. And vice versa. And of course, contraceptiin fails so babies arent always planned. Ultimately though for me its what the woman wants
Post # 8
I voted yes, but I feel more strongly about my answer if the two are in a relationship with one another.
Post # 9
Does a man have a right to express his opinion on the matter? Absolutely. Is the final say his? Absolutely not. It’s the woman’s body and 100% her decision as far as I’m concerned.
Post # 10
@itsnottoolate: 🙁 I hope things start to look up for your friend!
Post # 12
I think it can be extremely tough to be a man in a situation where you’re faced with an unplanned pregnancy and you don’t agree with the option chosen by the woman who is pregnant. Ideally, I think couples should be clear about their position toward abortion before having sex – I personally would never, ever sleep with someone who was anti-choice, and realistically, someone who is anti-choice probably wouldn’t want to sleep with me, either.
I think men should be able to voice their preferences when it comes to an abortion, but ultimately it’s their partner’s decision – it’s her body that will ultimately experience the effects of carrying or terminating the pregnancy.
Post # 13
@newname_99: +1 to everything you said.
My FI says that if we had to make such a decision, he hopes that I would take his wishes (whatever they may be) into account, but ultimately it affects me both physically and socially the most, so my opinion and needs and wants take more precedence.
I would definitely want to consult my FI, and get his side and opinion, and I would take that into account when I had to make my decision. And thats what it is, My decision. I wouldn’t be with my FI if he wanted to force me into something this imactful if I wasn’t fully prepared and wanting to.
Post # 14
Its not their bodies, so they don’t get a say. I don’t care what the situation.
Post # 15
There is no right/one answer. I think a partner should be involved in the decision, but in the case of a one night stand, he isn’t really a partner so I think it’s less important. I did not have casual sex when I was single because the consequences were too large, but that is just me.
Post # 16
@itsnottoolate: I’m so sorry about what your friend went through. I do know a man who went into a deep depression and turned to drugs when his girlfriend opted for an abortion, so I’m sure these types of stories go both ways. (I’m not saying the abortion excuses what he did though).