- 9 years ago
- Wedding: April 2010
Recently FI and I drove 650 miles to visit my parents for a short vacation at their home – only 2 days. When we got there, there were the usual hugs all around, but no mention congratulations or welcome to the family or anything like that. We’ve been engaged for 3 months, but this is the first we’ve seen them since the proposal. There was a "how are wedding plans going?" at dinner, but no discussion after I told them about a few things we’d done recently for planning. They are paying for about half of the wedding, so I kind of assumed they would want to at least know what is going on.
Fast forward to the next day (full day 1 of 2). Everything is good until my younger brother calls and announces that he is flying in for a surprise, but can’t afford to rent a car so he needs my parents to come pick him up at the airport the next day… 4 hours away. Quick background on him: joined the military after high school, got married to a girl that hates our family and they both regularly tell us that we’re a sorry excuse for a family (using loads of swear words). They call my parents about twice a year, don’t pick up their phones or return calls, and have visited them twice in the last 5 years. However, he also served in Iraq for a year, which is noble, blah blah blah, but didn’t call any of us for a month after he returned, and doesn’t excuse him from being an a-hole.
So my parents go pick him up ditching FI & I, sis, other Bro (who drove 10 hrs to get there), other SIL and their two grandkids, to spend the day picking him u, while we’re supposed to be calling everyone we know to have a welcome home party for him (oops, forgot to do that!). When they get home we have to take photos where beaming mom & dad crowd around their prodigal sonwho has finally returned, while the rest of us stand with them. The dinner prayer is "Thank you for J. coming home. Amen." (We didn’t even get a congratulations!)
So my question is this: I’m pretty upset that the a-hole of the family gets a fiesta and we get nothing. My parents pretty much ignored us the rest of the time, especially my dad, even after I tried to hint that it was nice to have everyone there. I’ve been away from home & on my own for about 10 years, and after that fiasco, I don’t think I want my parents giving me away. I know my dad is looking forward to it, but I am really really hurt by what they did. What do you think I should do?
Thanks for reading if you made it this far! 🙂