Should my fiance arrive at the end of my bridal shower?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should my fiance show up at the END of my bridal shower?
    YES! : (15 votes)
    79 %
    NO. : (4 votes)
    21 %
  • Post # 2
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Mine did and he surprsied me with flowers 🙂 All the ladies loved seeing him/meeting him.

    Post # 3
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    7098 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    My DH showed up at the very end, but it was mostly just to help clean up and pack everything in the car. Either way is fine IMO.

    Post # 6
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    42546 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Oten the FI does arrive at the end of the shower for a couple of reasons. He helps take the gifts home and see if there are any goodies left to eat!

    Post # 7
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    2205 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    In my area, it’s actually more common for the groom-to-be to be there for the whole shower.  I know.  Man in a sea of women.  Gasp.

    Post # 8
    Hostess
    22135 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2011

    My husband had been out with my dad, my brother, and his dad during the shower, and they popped in at the end to see if there was food left. That was all though.

    I don’t think it matter either way — whatever you want! In my area/circles at least, there’s not really a norm or tradition regarding whether the groom makes an appearance.

    Post # 9
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    2763 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I was asking that same question when it was time for my shower! I thought that it was the norm. I ended up just letting him go golfing with his groomsmen for the day instead. Not that I had to ‘let’ him but I thought it was fine if he did that & didn’t show up at the end.

    Post # 12
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2008

    My DH did not show up at the end, nor did I expect him.  He was 5 hours away at grad school.

    I think there was a time that FIs didn’t show up at showers, but then one FI happened to show up at the end with flowers which started a trend.  IMHO if he can go, he should, but if he can’t that’s cool too.

    Post # 4
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    10 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    Mine showed up at the end. It was a shower with me moms friends and they loved it. His mom was also there who lives a few hours away so he got to see her. 

    Post # 5
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    7654 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Mine showed up because we drove together and to help take stuff to the car.

    Post # 10
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    389 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2014 - Norton Country Club

    I’ve seen FIs show up at most showers, at least near the end… my sister’s now-husband actually dropped her off as it was a surprise! 

    He gets to be doted on by a lot of ladies who already love you, grab some cake, and help load up any gifts that the two of you have been given. 

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