Should my fiance get his sperm checked again?

posted 2 years ago in TTC
Post # 2
642 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I would wait until you actually start trying before worrying about testing…. I don’t think there’s much point looking for a problem before you even know if one’s there.

Out of respect of your request, I’ll refrain from commenting on his behavior….

Post # 3
2052 posts
Buzzing bee

I agree with the previous poster. Theres no point in checking now when you arent trying to conceive, when it could all be different when you actually start trying to conceive. 

Post # 6
7281 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

marymary123:  Sperm are made 3 months prior to ejaculation. Cessation of drug use should start well before TTC.

Post # 8
1055 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Loft

…why does he use recreational drugs? Is this so ring you’re ok with having around your child? 

Post # 10
2455 posts
Buzzing bee


marymary123:  I doubt it’ll have much effect on his sperm. When you do start trying, if you find you’re having problems, then check it out with your doctor and his.

Post # 11
2212 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I would TTC first before checking. But yes don’t let him say “I was ok before” as an excuse. My DH had a good analysis in Feb but by 3 months later it was considered low and has stayed low since. We are now doing IVF. Not trying to scare you but things can change month to month so after X amount of years it could’ve easily changed just because he was fertile enough to produce before doesn’t mean his count is the same. 

Post # 12
6959 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

How old are you? I wouldn’t bother testing it until you’ve been trying at least 6 months-1 year, unless you’re close to 40.

Post # 13
2782 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

marymary123:  The only thing I will say about his “behavior”- is that smoking pot can lower sperm count.  My sister and her hubby are trying to concieve and I have told her numerous times…..I think they are going on a year with nada.  So I suppose you get him checked- but rather then spend the money, share this info and tell him to cool while your TTC and see what happens.

Post # 14
8677 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I won’t comment on his behavior, but I agree with other posters that I wouldn’t go looking for trouble unless I absolutely have to. For all you know you could concieve the first month… nature tends to be kind of finnicky in reproduction for some creatures, so who knows? You could be fine, you could not be fine, it’s impossible to tell without actively trying to get pregnant. However, I do know that most doctors won’t consider investigating issues on either side until you’ve been trying to get pregnant for at least six months, and most I’ve read about won’t look until you’ve been trying for a year. So, I’d just leave the issue alone for now until you have issues, if any.

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