Post # 1
About 6-8 years ago he was in a different relationship. His girlfriend wanted to start trying to concieve (he wasn’t really feeling it) so he had his sperm count and quality checked. Idk the specific results, but he told me he was fine.
My fiance is almost 45 now though. And he’s started smoking pot quite regularly. Which is making me think his sperm has been adversely affected. Do you think we should get it checked out again?
We’ll probably start TTC after we get married.
BTW, he has two kids from a previous marriage.
I’d appreciate it if you guys only answered the question and didn’t try to analyze our relationship….
Post # 2
I would wait until you actually start trying before worrying about testing…. I don’t think there’s much point looking for a problem before you even know if one’s there.
Out of respect of your request, I’ll refrain from commenting on his behavior….
Post # 3
I agree with the previous poster. Theres no point in checking now when you arent trying to conceive, when it could all be different when you actually start trying to conceive.
Post # 4
i don’t mean checking right now but when we start TTC. i guess i should wait until there’s a problem. i’m also worried we could concieve but the baby would have problems and we might lose it. idk
Post # 5
i will probably ask him to stop/cut back on smoking pot when we’re TTC, especially around ovulation.
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
marymary123: Sperm are made 3 months prior to ejaculation. Cessation of drug use should start well before TTC.
Post # 7
lovekiss: i doubt that’s gonna happen….
Post # 8
- Wedding: December 2014 - Loft
…why does he use recreational drugs? Is this so ring you’re ok with having around your child?
Post # 9
missjz: i asked you not to start questioning him. he knows how to take care of himself and monitor himself and he knows how to raise kids. i have never once seen him stoned or really very high. he takes a few puffs to relax.
Post # 10
marymary123: I doubt it’ll have much effect on his sperm. When you do start trying, if you find you’re having problems, then check it out with your doctor and his.
Post # 11
I would TTC first before checking. But yes don’t let him say “I was ok before” as an excuse. My DH had a good analysis in Feb but by 3 months later it was considered low and has stayed low since. We are now doing IVF. Not trying to scare you but things can change month to month so after X amount of years it could’ve easily changed just because he was fertile enough to produce before doesn’t mean his count is the same.
Post # 12
How old are you? I wouldn’t bother testing it until you’ve been trying at least 6 months-1 year, unless you’re close to 40.
Post # 13
marymary123: The only thing I will say about his “behavior”- is that smoking pot can lower sperm count. My sister and her hubby are trying to concieve and I have told her numerous times…..I think they are going on a year with nada. So I suppose you get him checked- but rather then spend the money, share this info and tell him to cool while your TTC and see what happens.
Post # 14
I won’t comment on his behavior, but I agree with other posters that I wouldn’t go looking for trouble unless I absolutely have to. For all you know you could concieve the first month… nature tends to be kind of finnicky in reproduction for some creatures, so who knows? You could be fine, you could not be fine, it’s impossible to tell without actively trying to get pregnant. However, I do know that most doctors won’t consider investigating issues on either side until you’ve been trying to get pregnant for at least six months, and most I’ve read about won’t look until you’ve been trying for a year. So, I’d just leave the issue alone for now until you have issues, if any.