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I said dont let him help, but thats just my personal preference. I know that my FI would much rather see me at the end result all done up and be surprised as opposed to see the dress before Im actually wearing it. Regardless of what the dress is for
I think it's sweet he wants to help pick it out :) I say let him help! He's already going to be surprised by your first dress... and even if he helps pick out the second dress, it's going to look totally different once you're all done up with hair and makeup.
It's sweet of him to help, but yes he would probably need to see the other one, to know if the other dress is too similar or not. :o)
But it's really an individual's preference re: their FH seeing their ceremony dress.
Thank you all for the help! <3
Obviously the main decision is mine afterall I am the one wearing it haha, so what if he helps out and we agree on some dresses but I will pick the dress..sooo he would have seen it but does not know which one i will be wearing..Hmm
I say if he wants to help, let him! Not all guys would even be interested in helping. My FI and I shopped for my wedding gown together and so far it's his favorite part of the wedding planning, and mine, too. If you care about his not knowing what you look like, you've got your dress #1 for that, and for dress #2, you can share that experience together. How perfect!
Sure, if he wants to help definitely go for it! You already have one dress to surprise him, it's nice that he wants to have an input on your second one.
I've asked him what he would like to see me in and will put that into consideration, but as far as having him there with me, eh...i'd like to keep the dress a suprise.
Whoops, my bad, I missread your thread.
For the second/reception dress.......HECK YA! That's some great bonding moments!
@wendy that was funny so ya at some point next week im sure we'll sit down and look for dress #2 (eventhough i have a lot already picked) : )
Thank you all for your opinion <3
I voted yes let him have his opinion on what to wear. It's not actually the wedding dress you are wearing to the ceremony, but then again who really believes in silly wedding day superstitions anyway?
if you're ok with it then let him help, but i will NEVER understand girls who bring their fiance along for dress shopping! one of the big, special moments of the day is when you and he see each other for the first time all done up! especially him seeing you in a wedding dress, that's a big deal... i wouldn't let him see it. it would just make it like "oh hey honey, nice to see you today. you look nice in that dress i've seen you in before" you know? It's gotta be "wow! there's my soon-to-be wife in a wedding dress! that's something I haven't seen before!" I know he will be surprised with your ceremony dress so your situation isn't quite the same as what i;m talking about but seriously ladies, he should be surprised! :)
Kemi82JP I totally get your point. I agree 100% your FI should be surprised.
Sep_Queen The way you write it sounds like you're a little apprehensive to let him pick out your reception dress. I think you should follow your gut feeling. Let him be surprised!
If he enjoys doing the shopping and advice with you then let him! The reason my guy won't help is because he doesn't want to. He doesn't even want to pick out his OWN clothes let alone have anything to do with mine. If he wanted to pick out my wedding dress I'd let him do it, then put it in the closet for 6 months he wont remember it, I promise! He'll remember that it's white. LOL BIG surprise!!!
@kemi I agree i would never take him and bore him with dress shopping blah : )
@Mrsgibbs not apprehensive at all just was a little caught off gaurd when he asked : )
@what2bee Exactly my point my FI is like that "He doesn't even want to pick out his OWN clothes let alone have anything to do with mine" thats why it caught me by surpriese not so much your quote but hes a manly man like that haha.
I said no, but b/c it was my own personal preference. I'm not sure what I would have said if my husband truly wanted to have a say in my dress. I think I would be confused between the surprise element and the sweet nature of the fact that he wanted to help me choose...
Let us know what you decide! I'd love to know!
So did you end up letting him help you find the dress for the reception?
I say let him help you pick some choices and you pick the final one. It's the second dress..the first will alrady be a complete surprise!
i wouldnt!!! i think you should surprise him and have him staring at you with his eyes and mouth wide open when he will see you in your beautiful dresses!
I think it's really sweet that he wants to help. You should let him! My FI would drop dead at the thought of shopping with me! lol.
I'd be inclined to let him help too. That could be a really fun thing to share with him. Like you said, he doesn't know what the ceremony dress looks like which is the one that is most important to keep secret until he sees you down the aisle.
@thefuturemrsgibbs He hasnt seen the one I picked yet but i am setting up an appt this weekend to look at them so if he wants to go i'll let him : )
@bimba Thats what i was thinking give him the double wow factor haha..
@His Barista Thats how my FI is!! thats why it surprised me when he asked..
@jennifer_espos thats what i was thinking its going to be more of a simple dress anyway...
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So as I posted in other posts I am having a second dress for my reception and although he has no clue what my ceremony dress looks like he asked if he can see or help pick out dress #2 I really didnt have a straight answer I wouldnt mind... but then again it would be a nice surprise if he didnt..should I let him help pick a few out we both agree on then the end result will be my choice? so that would be kinda 50/50 (Grr idk) : /