Should my parents go to my SO's college graduation?

posted 2 weeks ago in Family
Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

redwinetime :  at least the chairs were comfortable then! Which is better than any graduation I’ve been to.

Post # 17
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I would never expect my parents to attend DH’s graduation ceremony, nor would I expect my MIL to attend mine. We actually had a cap on the number of tickets we could have – DH only had 2 (he wanted me to come but I told him to invite both his parents; we were only dating at the time and I felt it would be more special for his parents, although my MIL was sad that I couldn’t come too) and I had 3 (my parents and DH all came; again we were just dating at the time and it kind of sucked I couldn’t have my step mum there too but oh well). My parents gave DH a card when he graduated and his parents gave me one (and flowers) when I graduated, which was more than enough in my opinion.

Post # 18
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Certainly not. 

Post # 19
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

My fiancé and I were together for 4 years (engaged for 1) at my college graduation. His family didn’t show and I didn’t even care- I was celebrating my accomplishments. Congrats to his second degree!

Post # 20
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

littlemogwai :  I can’t think of any reason for them to go.  Let them take him out to dinner after (or just go as a family, no matter who pays).  My parents never even knew about my husband’s graduation, didn’t cross my mind to mention it, didn’t cross my mind to attend (about 2 years into dating).  there’s no getting around how boring they are anyway, nevermind medical conditions.

Post # 21
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Busy bee

Im not even making anyone except my mom and FI go to my graduation because graduations are no fun for anyone. Unless it’s extremely important to him I’d definitely skip it. 

Post # 22
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Hell I didn’t even go to MY graduations – all 3 of them! No way id make them go for a second bachelors. 

Post # 23
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Newbee

Nope. Would it be important to him that they do?

Post # 24
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Blushing bee

I invite my now in laws (weren’t at the time) to my masters reception brunch. I didn’t want to make them feel obligated, (I didn’t even want to sit there). They felt included and special however had a wedding that night and needed to leave early to get to the ceremony on time. But they appreciated the gesture! 

Post # 26
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2016

I don’t think so. Hell, I didn’t even want to sit through my own graduation in the stadium in the ga heat.. I can’t imagine Texas heat lol

Post # 27
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Honey bee

littlemogwai :  

Of course not , even if you had the extra tickets. And if FMIL says anything at all, I’d briefly  tell herthe health  problems  and say you would do the same for her/them   And  then never respond again if she brings it up.   

Post # 28
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I think it would be a little difficult for your parents to manage with their medical conditions, however you guys could always do a celebratory dinner to include them?

Post # 29
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Busy bee

littlemogwai :  Oh, not for a moment! Nobody is obligated to attend a graduation, much less people with chronic pain. It would be lovely for them to congratulate him, but they should not feel any hesitation about skipping the ceremony.

Post # 30
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Bumble bee

No of course they don’t have to go.  If your FMIL has anything to say about it, stuff a rag in her mouth. 

 

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