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Basically, I want to know if I should replace one of my bridesmaids (VERY close friend for 6 years) or wait around and see if her behavior changes. I've made a big effort over the past two months to keep in touch but she's not responsing to my attempts. She's actually completely ignoring me and I just got engaged the beginning of October. Below is the whole sob story, read on if you like!

My best friend and I have been friends since our sophomore year in high school. It's almost 6 years later and up until recently we've always been very close. Calling eachother at all hours when we have our crazy times, telling each other everything. She lives in WA and I live in MO and she was supposed to be flying out for my wedding next October. But we haven't spoken in months. I'll call or FB or text and I might get a reply a week later. She always comes up with an excuse as to why she couldn't take a moment to reply to me, even after saying I really need to talk about something important, but they seem like just that. Excuses. She's also not very good with her money so I don't know if she'd even be able to afford it. She COULD since it's so far away, but I don't think she'll put in the effort to make sure she does. She was going to be one of my BMs but she's not acting like a friend at all right now. Should I replace her? Or wait it out? My issue is I want to give her "replacement" ample time to get the matching shoes we all have (I tried to buy hers for her since she's having money issues, but she never went to David's to try them on. I even gave her the address and phone number for the closest location, less than two miles from her house.) before the style or color is discontinued. The lady I'm thinking of replacing her with travels to China for work so I figure the more notice she can give her employer, the better chance she has of being able to be here for the wedding. Suggestions?

@DaneLady: Thanks for replying so quickly! I thought of that, too, because the last thing I want to do is to make someone feel like a last string pick. But the lady I'd be choosing is a really awesome woman. She'll be my sister in law once I marry her husband's younger brother and I think she'd actually really like being in the wedding since her husband is too. As for my friend; I'm sure there is something going on, there is always SOMETHING going on, but I don't know what it is because she doesn't talk to me. I agree, telling her she's no longer in my wedding would be a friendship-ending move. But I feel chronicly ignoring your "best friend" when she literally begs you to call her is right up there with it. Honestly, if her behavior doesn't change in the way of communicaton I don't think she'd even notice. The only conversations we've had about the wedding were me calling her when I was engaged and then a few days later asking her what she thought about wedding color ideas. Other than that, we literally haven't ever spoken about the wedding because we've spoken maybe four other times, and those were texts saying something like "sorry I didn't get back to you (a week ago), I was busy".

I have some time before the wedding, just not quite sure how much since a few wedding details are on a countdown, problem is I don't know when that clock runs out. I'd like to think her bahavior will change, but I dont' want my wedding to be affect because I waited for change that never came. It will be bad enough if my bestie isn't there :'(

@DaneLady: Lol, yeah she was the first person I called when he proposed and I asked her then and she said yes.

@DaneLady:It's not the dresses I'm worried about. I'm getting a particular color of fabric on my dress and the shoes match this color. These are shoes that my other bridesmaids and I already bought and I wouldn't want my eventually-to-be-sister-in-law to left out because I waited to invite her in, ya know? Other people's discomfort makes me REALLY uncomfortable. I dunno. I'm definitely going to wait a few months and see what happens, but beyond that I'm not so sure.....

@delirium.megans: Yes I am. Why do you ask?