Post # 1
A little background here.
I am a 54 first time bride. Going full bridal, against my original plan (but so happy that my sister and best friend changed my mind).
A lot of people in my family are long gone. Especially missed will be my mother and grandparents. I am fortunate to have my 81 year old Dad escort me down the aisle.
I am 9 days away from my wedding. Everything is so under control it’s amazing. Yesterday, however, out of the clear blue, I had a melt down on the way to work, and all I could think of was “Sophie needs to be at the wedding”.
My grandmother and grandfather were people of modest means; she cleaned offfices at night for Prudential for 40 years, he was a paint-filler for Sherwin Williams.
But my grandmother loved beautiful things and had her indulgences. One is her beautiful engagement ring with a diamond surround that I will wear at my wedding. The other was her Persian Lamb coat with silver mink cuffs and collars. Except in the summmer, Grandma wore that coat every Sunday to Mass and for those once in a while special occaisions.
I was fortunate to have my grandmother for 33 years; when she passed away, all of her granddaughters took things that meant something to them. I have several of her things. I also took the Persian Lamb coat. However, Grandma was a tiny person compared to me (5’10) so there was nothing that could be done to make it wearable. So I made Sophie…..and you make think I’ve absolutely lost my mind, but I want her “inconspicuously conspicuous” seated in the church when I get married…. don’t know where, yet, but she needs to be there.
Say hello to Sophie!
Post # 3
If you’re going to do this … GO BIG or Go Home.. .she definitely needs a tiara
Post # 4
I love it. If you want Sophie there, then I say go for it. I might even put Sophie’s story in your program.
I would also assign someone to be Sophie’s keeper for the night. You don’t want anyone to accidentally pick her up thinking that she was left behind from an earlier event or have a child latch onto her with sticky fingers.
Post # 5
Do it! And have pictures taken of her in her tiara.
Post # 6
yes she has to go and she needs to be dressed up she is a lady!
Post # 7
@HisIrishPrincess: LOVE IT!
OP, I think Sophie should absolutely be there!! Like PP mentioned, have someone in charge of her for the night so she doesn’t get left behind/damaged.
Post # 8
@Sugaree: My nieces never knew there Great Grandmother, so I will assign them the duty of being Sophie’s keeper. (and yes, she does have a tiara!)
Post # 10
I also have pictures of my grandmother and mother on their wedding days (in lace gowns, which is why I had to have a lace gown), which I will also try in incorporate in some pictures – my photograper is very creative. I also want one picture of my Christening gown next to my bridal gown. I spend last night putting all these things together for the wedding. And my fiance thinks Sophie should attend (with the tiara). We’re both a little nuts, but we both are really into our families, and those who are no longer with us and the mementos we have of them.
Post # 11
@Katnisseverdeen: my grandmother was the epitomy of lady likeness!
Her hair was always impeccable and she was dressed to the nines (to go to the supermarket). Her makeup was always perfect. Her nails were perfect, and that said a lot for someone who cleaned bathrooms for 40 years! She looked way younger than her years, and everyone thought she was my mother, not my grandmother!
Post # 12
Aww! I def she should be there! She is adorable! With tiara and pearls! 😀
Post # 13
I agree with all previous posters. Such a sweet and thoughtful personal touch.
Post # 14
I love the story…Let Sophie go!!
Post # 15
That is really sweet and I think your guests will LOVE the story!! I would give her a seat up front at the ceremony in place of your grandma who can not be there.
Post # 16
I think Sophie needs to have an important job at the wedding: maybe she could oversee the guest book? The gift table? The cake table? She needs to be seated somewhere where people can admire her.