Should thank-you cards share a similar theme as that of the invitations?

posted 4 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
9149 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@WYAtocha:  Nope.  Your thank you cards don’t have to look like your invitations at all.  Just sending a thank you card is an accomplishment these days.

I always like when the couple sends out new stationary post wedding to show they are now a couple.  Maybe find some with your soon to be last initial or a new color to indicate a new start with your married life.

Post # 4
1234 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I don’t think you HAVE to but we did. Our invitations had a page with our engagement pictures and we had our photographers replace those pictures with our wedding pictures.

Post # 5
2442 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Ours didn’t match.  We just bought a box of pretty thank you’s at Target, they didn’t look anything like our invites but I figured nobody would care.

Post # 6
6895 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Only if you want to put the time and money into that sort of thing. That was a no-go for me, so they got some pretty generic (but pretty!) thank you cards. While they may not have been pretty, they were sent almost immediately, so there’s an extra point for me, right?

Post # 7
111 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I ordered our invitations through David’s Bridal and through the whole process they try and get you to order the matching thank you cards etc. No thanks.

As PP said, as long as I get a thank you note I don’t care what it looks like.

Come to think of it… still waiting for one from a wedding I attended in February… hmmmm :/

Post # 9
5068 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

I don’t think anyone sends them anymore. Well at least not in my friendship group. I’ve never known the thank yous to match. The ones I’ve seen are usually of the couple on the wedding day. 

Post # 10
8475 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Mine didn’t look similar at all. 

Post # 11
497 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I don’t think they need to.

Post # 12
9956 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I don’t think it matters whatsoever…

This is truly a personal preference sort of thing…

Nice if they match… equally nice if one goes in another direction entirely (photo Thank Yous are really popular)

The important thing is to send one

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TO @ALAin2014:  Altho February seems like a long time ago (5 months) … truth is if the couple is doing the photo type cards sometimes there are hold-ups (pun perhaps intended) / delays with getting all the Photos back from the Photographer(s)

Certainly played out in my own Wedding…. errrr.

We could have sent “regular” thank yous… but we had our hearts set on the Photo ones cause we Eloped and so many people never saw any Wedding Photos… plus we used them as Wedding Announcements for relatives etc who live outside of our immediate area.

Six months… its been a head-ache.  Must be WHY Etiquette Experts say one has up to a year to send em.

When I read that at first as an Etiquette Snob, I thought seriously ??  Now I have to say I get it.

On the otherhand, the Cards are lovely… everything and more than I expected.

Hope this helps,


Post # 14
8475 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@WYAtocha:  That’s great!

Post # 16
1228 posts
Bumble bee

@This Time Round:  Actually, it’s no longer considered proper etiquette to wait up to a year to send thank you cards (just as guests are no longer given up to a year to send a gift).

Most etiquette “experts” advise to have them sent within 3 months of the wedding.  I think i’ve seen one that advised you had up to 6 months post-ceremony.

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