Should the Bridal Party Pay?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Who pays
    Bride : (52 votes)
    58 %
    Bridesmaids and MOH pay for their own : (37 votes)
    42 %
  • Post # 3
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I say bride should pay!! But if you are having your bridesmaids pay you need to make pro hair makeup nails  optional.I am going to pay to have all my bridesmaids hair and nails done! They can do their makeup themselves! Maybe I will purchase them the lipcolor I want them to use! Mind you all my BM are great at makeup and will all chose nutrual colors!

    Post # 4
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I’m paying for hair and makeup for my 3 bridesmaids, mom, and me. it helps that my MOH is a hair dresser and got a great deal for us through her salon! 

    Post # 5
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    I didn’t vote because I think it depends.

    If the bride wants it professionally done (especially if it’s a certain way), the bride needs to pay.

    If she gives the option for them to do their own, the BMs pay for their own if they want to.

    Post # 6
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    Busy Beekeeper

    I said the bridesmaids pay for their own, but only if it is at their discretion whether to do professional or DIY. If the bride wants a certain look, she can offer but not require the BMs  to make use of her person.  In that case, she needs to pay, IMO. 

     

    Post # 7
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Depends, if you are wanting the BM’s to wear their hair or have their make up a certain way than you should pay.

     

    I told my girls I didn’t care how they wore their hair or make up, if they wanted it done professionaly than this is where I am going to be getting my hair done let me know if you want in on it to. They paid for their own if they wanted it done.  1 didn’t have either one done which was fine she did her own hair and make up.

    Post # 8
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    Sugar bee

    In my experience as a six time bridesmaid, if the bride requires it then she pays. If it is optional then the bridesmaid pays. I’ve never had to pay to get my hair done for a wedding though. 

    Post # 9
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I think I’m in the majority.

    • If the bride requires it, the bride pays.
    • If it is optional, the BMs pay.

    Post # 10
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I think if you require them to get their hair and makeup done, you should pay.  If it’s optional, you could ask if they want to cover their own.

    I required my girls to have their hair done, so I paid for the full cost.  On the other hand, I didn’t really care about the makeup, so I made that optional.  They all ended up opting to do it anyway.

    Post # 11
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    If you REQUIRE professional hair and makeup, you have to pay. There’s no reason on this planet that they NEED to have an expensive professional do their hair and makeup. If you are going to be anal about requiring it, it is your responsibility to pay for it. If you make it an option open to them if they want it, you can say if you want it professionally done, here is the price, if not, do it yourself. I personally would never choose to pay when I was just a bridesmaid, nobody is scrutinizing your look the way they are with a bride, I would just blow it out myself and call it a day. 

    Post # 12
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I agree with PP- if the bride requires anything (a specific look/style or just that the maids get it professionally done) then the bride pays. I told my girls it’s up to them (they’re all gorgeous anyway) and that I’ll try to pay for a service, if not part of a service. They all insisted on paying for themselves since we got such a good deal on their dresses, but when they day comes I still rope to contribute.

    Post # 13
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Depends what you’re asking of them.

    If you’re leaving their look up to them, no you don’t have to pay because they can do whatever they’re comfortable with and enjoy. (This is the route I’m choosing.)

    If you’re demanding a specific look, or that they have their hair and makeup done professionally, I think it’s right to pay for that. I don’t like a lot of makeup and formal crunchy hairstyles… if I were a bridesmaid being asked to sport a specific look put on me by a pro, I’d be pretty upset if I was also being expected to pay for it. 

    Post # 14
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @CTBride2016:  whenever I was in a bridal party I paid. All of my friends who were parties paid too. Maybe its a regional thing. 

    Post # 15
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    since most of my girls were traveling to be in the wedding and had already put in a good amount of their own $ for events and such, I paid for all of them to get their hair done.  Paid for makeup for maid and matron of honor and optional for anyone else who wanted it/could pay (no one did, but it all worked out fine).

    Post # 16
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I’ve always had to pay for my hair and makeup and was never really given much of an option to not, but as the bride this time around, I will pay for pro makeup, but hair is gonna be optional and on their budget.  My MUA will only do 6+ people for Saturday weddings during peak season, but she comes at a price and i would feel uncomfortable asking my girls to pay.  Hair though, I’m thinking I want to have the stylist come to me, rather than a salon, and this too comes with a steep price tag.  It will be an option for the BM, but not required, so they can check out a salon which will have a better rate, or just do their own hair!

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