Post # 1
Need some urgent advice. Wedding is in 5 weeks and 2 days and FI is ordering custom ties tonight. We need to determine IF we should have matching ties for my dad, stepdad and FI’s dad. Is this the norm? They are coral colored so will be very distinct if they do match. I would never ask the moms to all wear the same outfits so not sure what is the norm with the dads? Advice please!
Post # 2
- Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast
I don’t think so. Maybe get them a nice contrasting tie (do you have any other accent colors?). Or at least in a different pattern… I wouldn’t get them the exact same tie.
Post # 3
julesbeeb: When we went to the tux shop, we picked out the tuxes for my fiance and his guys. The lady at the shop than gave us different options for the fathers to wear. Do they match our wedding party? No not at all. I think it depends if you want them to match or not. If this helps this is what they are wearing
Groom – Black Tux with Ivory Vest, Tie and Pocket Square
Groomsmen – Black Tux with Black Vest, Teal tie and Teal Pocket Square
Fathers – Black Tux with Charcoal Grey Vest, Tie and Pocket Square
Both fathers will be wearing this suit so they match but they don’t match our guys. You can do it however you want but I thought it might help to see an example of someone elses wedding choices to help you with your decision. Good Luck!
Post # 4
I would just let them dress themselves. I don’t think they need to or should match the groomsmen.
Post # 6
Our fathers wore the same gray tux’s as the groom and groomsmen…except:
Groom wore white vest and tie to match bride (me)
Groomsmen had a gray vest and blue tie to match bridesmaids
Fathers (we had 3) had gray vest and gray tie.
That way, all the important people matched, but had minor differences to match who they were supposed to be matching.
Post # 7
julies1949: this. OP, i was struggling too! but in reality, if the bridesmaids and moms dont wear the same thing, neither should the men. the guy at the tux shop said that the dads should match the moms/their date… eg if my mom wore a red dress, my dad would wear a red tie… and then we kept it the same because it was classic with black suits and white shirts.
Post # 8
julesbeeb: Nope. FI’s dad chose to rent a suit from the place we are getting his/the groomsmen’s from but my dad has a more professional career and has many, many tailored, well fitting suits. So he chose to wear one that he already owns. They are both wearing whatever tie they want so they will not match.
Post # 9
Great, thanks ladies! I will let them pick their own ties and like the suggestion of the matching the moms. Thank you!!!
Post # 10
We have the groom in an ivory tie to match me, groomsmen in a plum tie, and dad’s in a dark grey tie. That way the dad’s don’t look like old groomsmen and just a have a classic look (we went with grey instead of black because it looked a bit more summery) so not overly apparent matchy matchy. Everyone will be wearing the same tux, and the dads and groomsmen all have a matching black vest (the groom will be wearing an ivory vest), so they will go together. I like the idea of matching them to their dates/moms. We had to pick their ties before the moms picked their dresses and my dad would prefer grey over a colored tie anyways.