Post # 1
My FI, his groomsmen, and FI’s father are all wearing black tuxes with black bowties & cummerbunds. My father will also be wearing a black tux, but he wants to wear a vest instead of a cummberbund.
FI thinks having my dad as the only guy in a vest will look ‘off’ in the pictures and make him standout (moreso than the groom). Is he right? Does anyone have pictures where the Father of the Bride is wearing something different?
Should I ask my dad to wear the cummberbund? My parents are paying for the wedding. FI has only had a few requests for the wedding, and this is one of them.
Post # 3
I personally would prefer they match, but I totally get being between a rock and a hard place. How much does your dad want to wear the vest?
I also don’t think it’s that big of a deal if he wears something different. Basically, I don’t think either direction is that big of a deal… it’s just who is willing to be flexible first, your dad or your FI?
I can relate a little bit on being surprised with guys being particular about tuxes though. Ipicked out the tuxes for the whole party (groomsmen in black/purple, FI in black/silver, dads in black/black). I sent them to my dad and he was like “These aren’t very festive. Can I wear a different color?”
No, no you may not. He got over it. LOL (Actually, I wrote him a really long email with my thoughts on the “look” and a few other options, like a blue. I photoshopped the different tuxes together and he saw that I had put a lot of thought into it and black was the classiest looking option given the colors other people were wearing.)
Post # 4
I too have a personal preference for them to match, but to be honest, I don’t think people will notice if they don’t match.