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I voted maybe. If he has an interest in wedding planning and likes that sort of thing, or you just really want him to be involved, then I don't know of any superstition or anything that says he shouldn't. That said, most men don't care to agonize over the details of a bridal bouquet, so if he doesn't care, and that doesn't bother you... keep it to yourself.
@AlbertaBride: I didn't vote because... well... it doesn't matter to me I guess! My FI has no interest in what flowers I am carrying, but I will run them by him anyways. 99% sure he won't even remember what they look like by the wedding date!
I voted maybe because to me it doesn't really matter. My FI is very involved in all of the wedding planning so he will most likely see mine!
I don't think it matters either way, it's not that he should see it, but he can if he wants - but he doesn;t really care about flowers so I don't know if he would.
BF has been very interested in the planning for us. I mean if it came down to a disagreement he would always say "if you're happy I'm happy" unless it was something he REALLY thought was necessary.
So when I showed him the bouquet I was thinking of he didn't think the flowers were arranged nicely and I found a picture of a different arrangement (subbed one of the flowers) and he loves it. So I mean, technically he doesn't know for sure I'm using that one but he had a hand in picking it.
It's been the same with all the other things that I want to surprise him with. We browsed wedding dresses online and I got a lot of "wtf is that" and "terrible"'s! So I learned kind of what he liked and didn't like, we found one we both liked and I favorited it. Does it mean that's the exact dress I'll wear? No but it could be. That way there's an element of surprise.
FI was there when we decided on flowers. But, he probably doesn't know what any of them are, anyway. Either way, though, it didn't matter to me.
DH wouldn't have cared if I carried flowers at all. The only way he'd care is if we were paying for them, but my parents paid for the flowers.
I didn't vote, because I would say, "who cares." Sure, if he wants to, (But what groom cares?) but not if the bride doesn't want him to.
I voted "maybe" but my real answer would be "who cares"... He wouldn't care to know, I wouldn't care if he did know. It's an accessory for the bride, I didn't get his input on my shoes or my jewelry, and so I don't see why the bouquet would be any different.
I said maybe because only if one of you cares. I didnt care.
EDIT: I dragged him to one flower appt (we only had two) to help determing bouts, which I ended up making anyways. So he def knew what I was going for.
I'm not sure if this is strictly in my family or if it's an Icelandic tradition, but my father chose my mothers bouquet and my BIL picked wildflowers for my sisters bouquet.
I don't really think it matters so I voted "Maybe" Flowers were something that FI and I chose together so while he doesn't know exactly what it will look like, he knows the color and type of flowers. That being said, I don't know exactly what it will look like either haha
Hold the presses. I'm so confused. Doesn't the groom buy the brides bouquet? That's what we're planning so....HELL YES! I think he should know EXACTLY what I've picked out!
My FI is great with planning and we equally decide on things. He DOES NOT care about flowers. So, if there was an "He doesn't care" option that is what I would choose. I'm using fake flowers anyway and he's seen the raw materials. The only thing I'm hiding from him is my dress. He was with me when I bought my shoes, my headpiece, and I don't care what else he sees. I DID drop a hint (I said mermaid to a friend in front of him) but I honestly don't think it'll ruin the surprise.
My FI has seen what everything is going to look like from the dress and my hair to the flowers and the bridesmaids gowns. He has to help pay for it all so he might as well know what he's buying.
I agree with PPs. I wouldn't hide it from him, but he didn't go with me to the florist and wouldn't even know what I was talking about if I explained it to him.
My fiance picked mine out unknowingly almost 13 years ago! I'm using the same flowers that were in my bouquet from his senior prom. I'm just "updating" it by wrapping the flowers in the wedding style.
He does know that I'm doing this, because I'm using the colors from the bouquet ribbon as the wedding colors.
I don't see how it matters, unless you were doing something specific with the bouquet to surprise him. I didn't vote.
I didn't vote either because I think it all depends on the FI. My guy knows what all the flowers will look like. I never even considered it being an issue.
I don't think it is a big deal if they know what the bouquet looks like. As long as they don't know what the dress looks like that is all that matters!
I don't think it matters. If a guy is into flowers and wants to know about the bouquet, it's fine. And if they're not interested, I don't think they have to know about it. I'm keeping a lid on the dress, but if he wanted to know about the bouquet. it wouldn't bother me to tell him about it.
Mine went with me to the florist, but was playing a game on his Iphone the whole time. Don't think he paid much attention to what I told the florist I wanted.
I'm pretty sure my FI wouldn't care at all if we didn't have a single flower what so ever. This just doesn't strike me as something they worry over. It's not like he's going to see you in your white dress and think, "my god, what a gorgeous bouquet!!! I love cabbage roses!!!"
@KristenGotMarried: It's not a secret. Just wondering if it was a thing or not. I know nothing of weddings...
I've shown him everything but my dress plans at this point
Im with AirForceWife78 my FI knows everything about our wedding except my dress.
I think there's nothing wrong with them knowing, think it's up to the bride really and the groom - if he wants to know and be involved.
I don't understand why he wouldn't know what they look like. My fiance is involved in every part of wedding planning and considering he's letter pressing our invites and stationary and he's developing our website, he needs to be clear on the overall look and color of things.
I think even if I explained my bouquet to my FI.. he wouldn't be able to visualise it. In fact I don't think I could until I actually saw it for myself. Since the flowers are all coordinated, I'm sure he could make a valid guess on what it would be like from the table decorations and arrangements/boutineers etc
I voted maybe cos I don't think many grooms would really give a toot about the flowers
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