(Closed) Should the Mother of the Bride (MOB) dress match your wedding colour scheme?

posted 5 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Should the MOB dress match/compliment your wedding colors?
    Yes : (31 votes)
    40 %
    No : (46 votes)
    60 %
  • Post # 3
    2023 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    What is MOD?

    Post # 5
    74 posts
    Worker bee

    I think MOB and MOG dresses should compliment/coordinate with the wedding colors

    Post # 6
    2023 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I think that they should coordinate – but you definitely cant dictate exactly what they wear, unfortunately. 

    Here is my dress and here is a picture similar to my mom’s dress –

    Post # 7
    9955 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Not a required matchy-matchy thing.

    But colour and tone might be an issue… you wouldn’t for example want her to clash as she’ll no doubt be in pictures where your Wedding Party / Wedding Colours might be quite apparent.

    A MOB, should always consult with the Bride and they decide together what look (maybe even down to colours) that she should go with.

    And once the MOB has chosen her gown (done early on)… then she should let the MOG know what she’s chosen

    I was fortunate in my first Wedding that both my Mothers were classy ladies with a bit of Etiquette knowledge… so they were both appropriately dressed in regards to formality and complementary style.

    My Wedding Colours were Light Pink & Maroon (yes very 1980s).  My Mom wore a deep Purple / Grape Long Gown and the MOG wore a lighter purple one /  lilac.  The two Mom’s didn’t look like twins, but they coordinated well for photos (both Dads were in Tuxedos, same styling as the Bridal Party… Morning Dress).  There was a cohesive balance in all the colours… so that family looked good when photographed with the Bridal Party as well (we had siblings in the Bridal Party as well)

    Hope this helps,


    Post # 8
    1600 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Well, this probably isn’t going to help since the votes are tied right now, but I didn’t vote. 

    I don’t think the MOB dress HAS to be the same color/shade, but I think it’s nice if it’s in the same color family (like if your Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses are light blue, the MOB dress can be dark blue or maybe a green or teal). 

    Obviously if your color is, like a muted wine color and she shows up in a bright yellow or green monstrosity then ick that might be a problem but I think as long as the colors are in the same general hue you should be fine.





    Post # 9
    1376 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Am I the only one who finds the idea of the bride having an say in what either mother should wear to be ridiculous?

    If I tried to pull that with my mother she would laugh in my face, because she’s been dressing her damn self for 60-odd years and been doing just fine at it so far.

    And as a guest or looking at people’s pictures, I have NEVER noted whether people’s clothing matched the decor/wedding party. I would find that to be a really odd thing to be noticing at someone’s wedding.

    Post # 10
    430 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I the dress should compliment the colors but it doesn’t have to match.

    Post # 11
    5494 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I don’t think this is necessary at all.  My know when my mom and I shopped for a dress for her we focused on what colors looked good on her, not what coordinated with the wedding. She chose a dress that did not coordinate with the wedding colors.  It made absolutely no difference and certainly does not clash in any of the photos.  

    Post # 12
    633 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    In the end, I don’t think it REALLY matters, but I think it’s nice when they coordinate. I always found it odd when MOB/Gs wear the same purple or blue tones at every wedding I went to, when the wedding colors are Pink or Yellow…it just looks weird in pictures to me. Of course, I don’t even like the dresses they pick…the same traditional tafetta look with the boxy jacket. But that is, of course, just my personal opinion, based on my personal tastes.

    I don’t think anyone should FORCE anyone to wear anything specific…even when it comes to bridesmaids, but I do think the wedding party should all be in agreement that they will work together to form some sort of cohesive, coordinating look.

    Post # 14
    4429 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @scootied:  i voted no but i’m not too sure how that goes my mother does not want to and says that they are not suppose to match my wedding colors are blue and my mother is going for a scarlet red or a wine color. i know the MOB and MOG should wear different colors to stand out.

    Post # 15
    1008 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    I really wanted to moms colors to match with the wedding but she is super petite and couldnt find anything in that color scheme.

    We had ivory, blush, and my dress was light gold.

    My mom found a bright blue dress that she looked HOT in. She looked beautiful and you dont even notice it in the pictures.

    Post # 16
    5405 posts
    Bee Keeper

    @worldtraveler:  I totally agree! Grown women can certainly dress themselves. If they ask about color, I would just tell them your wedding colors are x and y and they can pick whatever color they feel good in!

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