Post # 1
So this is a conversation that has come up several times. I’ve found a couple of rings I absolutely love, but SO said absolutely no way because he didn’t like them. Is this ok? I was pretty gutted as I was going to be the one wearing it for the rest of my life, but I guess he needs to like it too. Opinions and photos of rings welcome!
Post # 3
@kellym83: It should be a ring you love and a ring that your SO is proud to give you!
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID
I never understood the women who said the man should like the ring. Yes, he should probably like it to an extent, but we’re the ones who have to wear it, we should like it the most. When I read stories about how a woman fell in love with a ring, but the man said no because of X, Y or Z, it just blows my mind. I would never let a man tell me I couldn’t have my dream ring because it had a diamond, or because it wasn’t yellow gold, or any other reason than maybe financial reasons (which that I totally understand).
Post # 5
My FI and I both liked my ring equally. There were a few options that he felt were too trendy and not classic enough for my style. He was right, I would’ve regretted if I went with a halo or a cushion cut.. 2 things my FI did not like.
Post # 6
My SO doesn’t know much about jewelry. And an engagement ring is such a personal, lasting piece that both people should be happy with it. Ultimately, if I’m happy, he’s happy.
Post # 7
@kellym83: My DH says as long as I love it, he does too 🙂
Post # 8
@KC-2722: +1 to this except FI liked cushion cut, and so do I LoL I feel like its timeless and the way he designed my ring it has a vintage timeless look
before I got engaged cushion cut wasn’t really popular and ever since I got engaged a lot more people are getting them but with halos. I am not crazy about halos for a few reasons but I won’t say why bc I don’t want to offend anyone
Post # 9
My FI likes my ring – I think the guy should like the ring at least a little, since he’s paying good money for it!
Post # 10
@kellym83: There were three I really liked and together we narrowed it down to the ring of my dreams! Ultimately he wanted me to have whatever made me happy but when his opinon is asked he gives it honestly.
I have NO regrets choosing it together because he comments all of the time on how beautiful it it and feels very proud that ultimately he gave me the ring of my dreams. It sounds silly but it is an excitement that we share together when someone compliments it and there is no feeling of how he had nothing to do with it and that he just paid for it lol! Good LUCK!
Post # 11
Here’s my story:
- He picked the promise ring. I hated it but wore it out of love.
- I picked the e-ring and he liked it too. Was glad to get engaged because I no longer had to wear the promise ring.
- I picked my own eternity band as our 5th wedding anniversary present and he hated it. He wanted to buy me a more expensive ring, and while it had more diamonds, it was just not the style I was looking for (it was too plain for me). I was very upset and after arguing on our anniversary (!!) he ended up shutting up and just buying me the ring I chose when I told him I wouldn’t buy the other ring, since we were wasting money buying a ring I didn’t like. Mind you I had let him pick out his new wedding band (we both got new rings) without issue! Guess who has to wear it and love it (and gets compliments on it)? And guess who says he loves it now too, that it really fits me and my personality?
This is why I voted for #1.
Post # 12
@Daizy914: Everyone is entitled to their own opinion 😉
Post # 13
Let me just say – I chose my initial set… because I thought I should like it since I was the one wearing it.
I changed my mind.
The more I thought about the fact that my DH didn’t have any input in what I was wearing on my hand… the sadder I got.
Solution: We went TOGETHER and chose a new setting for my stone and new bands and now I’m so in love with my set (and my man!). I really think – for me – that it made a huge difference that HE loved my set.
Post # 14
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
My FI didn’t have an opinion. As long as it was in his price range he wanted me to pick something out that I would love. He didn’t even have much of a price range to go on so I pretty much made that up too knowing what his salary is and knowing we want to save for a house I stayed pretty conservative.
I think something like this is about all FI would have said no to LOL…I do like Hello Kitty. FI is very against these type of “theme” rings (I think some of them are AWESOME, LOL) because he thinks people are then equating their love of whatever it is to their love for their SO/FI/DH.
All that being said…we ended up going together to get my ring. FI wanted to get me something I loved. I think the best part of the process for him was seeing me “light up” when I tried on my ring for the first time.
Post # 15
Ideally both should like it, but I really do think the wearer’s preferences take precedence in this case! Most important thing is both should agree with the price – I know, I’m so pragmatic! 😛
Post # 16
I had showed my FI an idea of what I liked, but he picked the e-ring out keeping that in mind. I think you should just talk to him about what you like and why its important to you that you love your ring…after all, you will be wearing it every day forever! I do like the idea of maybe choosing a few different rings with him and let then letting him have the final decision. That way you know it will be something you love…but he feels like he was able to “pick it” for you.