(Closed) Should the SIL be invited to our wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Should I invite the SIL to our wedding?
    Yes : (14 votes)
    40 %
    No : (3 votes)
    9 %
    Yes if you reach an understanding : (7 votes)
    20 %
    Yes just ignore her, she's irrelevant : (11 votes)
    31 %
  • Post # 4
    696 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    You should probably still invite her..though when she gets her paws on your wedding band she will likely mutter a curse on them rather than a blessing! lol…not that she would have any real power to do that though so no worries!

    Post # 5
    2031 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    The sad thing is, generally a +1 is given to immediate family and bridal party…so by that logic you’d ‘have’ to invite her.  That is, of course, up to you and your Fiance and no one else.  

    As for making a scene, if she REALLY wants to ruin your day, she’ll do it regardless.  If she’s truly crazy, she’ll show up regardless of her invite status.  I’d invite her, but have your Fiance talk to his brother about things that are bothering him (like not seeing his neices as much as he’d like) and see if they can come to an agreement.  She’s toxic and awful, no doubt, but imagine the drama that NOT inviting her will cause?

    Post # 7
    2866 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    You should already know the answer to this question. Yes, you should invite your SIL to your wedding. Unless she sleeps with the groom or punches you in the face you need to be the bigger person and do what is right.

    Post # 8
    3569 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I voted Yes, how does your Fi feel about her not being invited?

    I think you should no longer engage with her, let your Fi deal with her, be polite when you see her at family events. Don’t fb,call, text, or speak to her on your own. Eventually she going to give up or start looking like a fool who arguing and starting drama with her self.

    The relationship with my sister in law is that way, and I love it like that. Since I took that approach I barely have any issues with her, and she lost any way to start drama as I only see/speak to her at family events. It makes my life easier.

    Post # 9
    3471 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

    It’s obvious your Fiance is close to his brother and/or their children, so I think you need ot invite her.  You know the drama is coming, so you can brush it off and not feed into her. But it’s not fair to the rest of her family to keep them away because she will throw a tantrum if you don’t invite her. 

    Post # 10
    2786 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Wow, did I write this post?!

    I have had the same struggle….so I 100% understand (even down to passing the rings! :))

    What PP said, unfortunately, is right. This is one of those times where you just have to be the bigger person, suck it up, and invite her. Honestly, you’ll barely see her, and this way you know you were the bigger person.

    Post # 13
    205 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I think you not inviting her would just give her another reason to bad mouth about you to the family. Invite her and if she makse a fool of herself, then that’s on her and the family will obviously see that. 

    Post # 14
    9552 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Good luck and I think you’re doing the right thing!

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