Post # 1
So my FI and I have already talked and said how we do not wish to have any children under 18 minus the 3 how are in our wedding parties(my niece, 14, who is a bm, and our flower girl/ring barer who are both going to be 7). Well now going over and doing final things on the guest list he wants to invite his aunts twins who will be 3 years old at time of the wedding. Now I have no problem with them for I love children and they are adorble but they are a handful. My thinking is, if one/both of them start making a fuss either his aunt or his grandmother will leave to calm them down but I do not wish for either to miss any part of it(he is the first grandson to wed and his aunt is also his godmother). Also our reception is from 6pm-12am. So they would also leave early to put them down for bed and everything. As much as I would love to also have them there I want his aunt/grandmother to have a good time and enjoy it all not be watching over the twins.
Any ideas/advice on what to do?
Post # 3
@rmrsln2010: I have a couple of things:
-if you invite them you should probably invite all the kids who are not involved in the wedding party as well. I would be a bit upset if my kids weren’t invited and then I noticed that kids who weren’t in the wedding party were there.
-if someone asks why kids aren’t invited please do not tell them it’s because you want them “to enjoy the wedding.” I find it strange when people use this as a reason to not invite kids. If someone wants to enjoy a night out without kids they will get a babysitter so don’t pretend you are doing them a favor. That being said I’m totally in favor of a kid free wedding, I just don’t think that should be given as a reason.
Post # 4
If you invite them, you open up yourself to a heap of other “requests” for other kids to be invited. Don’t do it.
Post # 5
The second you make an exception for one, you have to invite them all!
Post # 6
@MrsBeck: Bad wording sorry lol. I went back up to Michigan last month to do some wedding stuff and I went with the twins, his aunt, grandmother, grandfather, and fmil to the zoo and it was just a handful for if one wasnt crying/fussing the other one was(yes I understand they are still babies and are 2 and that is how they act. I’ve been around little ones my whole life.) I just do not want to really worry about them plus where we are getting married really isnt the greatest for children in my thinking.
@Apple_Blossom: Thank you, that was another thing I am worried about since then it would take our count from 125 to closer to 140-150. Yes our venue has the room but I do not want that many